Claudiu: The insight that when I am anxiously fretting and ruminating on how to proceed to self-immolation, is actually me actively preventing and resisting to self-immolation, is bearing fruit and continues to be confirmed as correct.
This is excellent and your consequent outstanding experiences confirmed this insight.
As I understand the process you described, pure intent was at one point temporarily out of reach “because I had labelled “the anxiety” as something outside of ‘me’” and kept in place by dissociation. By recognizing this you could experience it directly as “just being anxious!”
Claudiu: So rather than try to stop “the anxiety” I reflected on the reality that I was being anxious. Then the next obvious question was: what am I feeling anxious about? And I saw that I was feeling anxious about being uncertain about how to continue towards self-immolation. And that the wondrous and amazingly rich, still, perfect, and rock-solid experience of driving, amounted to showing me that I had been doing it wrong the entire time, by conflating me anxiously ruminating with me making genuine progress towards self-immolation, when in fact it was the opposite!
Just seeing and accepting this was enough for me to stop spinning in anxiety.
One thing is clear from your report in this post that whatever rumination causes anxiety cannot produce a useful guide to self-immolation, it can only lead you away from it. I wonder if there is more to this anxiety than “being uncertain about how to continue towards self-immolation” because this cause for anxiety has now clearly been exposed as a ‘furphy’, a red herring, a strawman.
Whereas being anxious about giving up “what ‘I’ hold most dear” is not so easily recognized as silly (even if that were the answer to “what am I feeling anxious about?”) because “what ‘I’ hold most dear” is all ‘I’ consist of, is all that keeps ‘me’ in place, and ‘my’ entire existence depends on being held dear. I know, it sounds tautological because it is. 
Wouldn’t it be fascinating to inquire what this anxiety is, in and of itself, what is its nature (not only what it is about)? I’m asking because you can use the very energy of a passionate feeling, seeing it operating at ‘your’ core, such as fear (when shifting to the thrilling aspect) to catapult you into the third alternative, permanently. (link, footnote 1)
I am not saying it is the way, or the only way, or that it is necessary, because everyone has a different way of arriving here in the actual world. I just noticed that it has been a recurring theme for you in various forms, and why not pull it out at its roots if/when it pops up again.
Claudiu: With these recent experiences and insights having happened… … onwards!
Indeed.
Cheers Vineeto