This reminds me a lot of the naturally pessimistic ‘world-wise’ identity
To be someone who is ‘wise’ in real-world times means someone who is clever at pointing out how everything is depressing… it’s being good at depressing others. Supposedly to protect them of course…
And similarly being ‘wise’ like that is to protect myself, too.
It makes sense because for a normal person, to know a lot about the world is inherently depressing. A lot of academics are depressed for this reason. Or people in powerful positions become very jaded & abusive. They know a lot, and knowing a lot for a normal person = coming across a lot of the ugly side of humanity.
So then it becomes habitual to look for ‘something bad’ because that means one knows ‘what’s really going on.’ Knowing ‘what’s really going on’ means one has power, as others don’t know ‘what’s really going on.’
From this view, someone who is happy is in the worst position! And to be fair, a lot of times a happy person is partly that way because of their limited knowledge of worldly evils.
However, with actualism you get to have the best of both worlds.
This comes via reconciliation with the facts. I like to use war as an example for this.
It’s a fact that war exists, and in fact that it has been our constant companion since the dawn of our species. It’s also a fact that during wartime, humans enact terrible things on one another. Remember Richard was spurred to eventually become free from being in a warzone?
However, the genesis of this fact is very, very deep - it comes from our aggressive instincts, which ‘may as well have always been there,’ so ancient is their inception. Even shrimp may have some archaic version of aggression in them.
Who can be blamed - what evil is there in that fact? The very functioning of ancient biology? Animals adapted aggression to fight for resources in a crowded world. Of course - they should - it is baked into nature itself to do that.
Fast-forward a few billion years, and you have us. Still quite aggressive, though it can be appreciated the steps that have been taken to attempt to have some peace. And then we specifically on this forum - seeking a means to end that aggression & suffering for good.
There is no need to be depressed about war, or about any other thing that humans do, because what we do is as natural as biology itself. The roots go as deep as the earth.
The ultimate in wisdom is to be unbothered by these facts - though still seeking their ending.
Similarly - it’s natural for people to be offended by this or that that we say. No matter how factual or sensible.
Hanging out with Richard & Vineeto was very instructive for this, for me. For the first time ever, I was in a position where whatever I could say, they would not be upset by me. Everyone should be like that! But they can’t, or won’t. It’s their choice, ultimately. What a silly choice!
It’s sensible to not trigger them off in most situations, but it’s not a problem for me. It’s just a situation in which everyone around me is quite silly…