Hmm, I would like to think that my motivation is something as selfless as that.
It seems to be more that I can’t let others help me. Something like what you are saying, as it seems that the identity is that, but the real issue is I am scared all the time.
I’ve been reflecting on what draws me to value the relationship I had with the recent ex. There was a lot of rejecting going on. To be fair, it was roughly mutual. In very different ways, but still rejection.
I think it is something that I need to remain me. To put myself in a position I can reject, but also be rejected.
I am trying to be level headed in my thoughts about it. Because I have done my share of rejecting.
In happy news, I was lamenting life on the couch, and a friend rang me up. I had a great chat with him about where I am at. It means a lot.
Indeed, it means a lot to have yourself and others respond to my posts.
I imagine that I should be better than who I am.
Chatting with my friend, he encouraged me just to enjoy dating and getting to know people.
I think it’s definitely something close to what you are saying, a very strong identification with having to be something for everyone else.
It feels like I am mixed up. That there is a selfishness which some can navigate, which I can’t. I do feel responsible for others at the expense of myself.
It’s murky stuff.
Thanks for the encouragement.
At the moment, it seems that going to the gym is the most sensible thing. To improve my health.