I was investigating along tangential lines recently. I saw that the various feelings mentioned here all stem from the instinctual passion of desire—not just sexual desire but also the desires ‘stuck atop’[1] it. Instead of sidestepping or reducing this desire, I can channel[2] it towards beneficial means (rememoration geek 
), and this makes those other feelings pretty redundant.
RICHARD: Nothing worth anything is gained without extending oneself way beyond the norm. One has to want freedom like one has never wanted anything before. I say: rev up desire until one feels that one must surely implode … and rev it up some more. Unless freedom is one’s number one priority in life – amounting to an obsession – one will always live a second-rate life. Selected Correspondence: Love and Love Agape
I see now why Richard uses ‘desire’ (in the list of instinctual passions) instead of merely ‘lust’. Also, cf. “the very passionate drive of desire, in whichever form it manifests” in Intimacy - #35 by Kub933 ↩︎
So no longer wasting the instinctual energy on the thing being desired (in the real-world) … be it sexual ‘conquest’, validation (aka. emotional/ identity conquest), possession, a prop for one’s self-worth, an other-person derived source of meaning in life, or whatever. The “energy” of that desire is now freed for other purposes. ↩︎