Hi Vineeto,
Thanks for the reply. I think I’ve pretty much got the hang of identifying the bad feelings and getting back to feeling good. However, I have noticed that the good feelings are a little trickier for me to catch. Or actually, I do notice the good feelings but I am more likely to keep them around and not look into them. It seems to be easier for me to acknowledge that it isn’t sensible to feel bad.
Lately, to help me differenciate between feeling good and good feelings, I ask myself if I am being caring. So, for example, the other day my boss tried to catch one of us out because she found an empty crisp packet in the wrong bin (it was in the food waste bin rather than the other waste bin). Very confidently she asked which one of us had done this. I could sense she was quite ready to shame one of us. Turns out it was herself since I remembered and reminded her that she did infact have salt and vinegar crisps the day before 
. She did very quickly retracted her readiness to chastise and I could sense she felt rather humilated. In that moment I felt proud, a bit smug myself. Of course I only felt these good feelings at the expense of another fellow humanbeing feeling humiliated so being those good feelings was clearly seen to be not caring. I noticed that quite quickly and felt a pang of guilt. Writing this now I am brought to the realisation on how sneaky I can be. There I was, being the exact same way my boss was, in a matter of seconds I threw away feeling good for the good feelings with no care or consideration.
Another one of the good feelings I’ve noticed pops up quite often is the feeling of belonging. I think the feeling of belonging isn’t caring. It means that you belong to a group and by that exclude others that don’t belong to your group. There’s a Taylor Swift song called “You’re on your own kid” that always makes me well up. Essentially it’s about the feeling of needing and wanting to belong. That is the other side of belonging, being lonely. So ultimately, to free myself from being lonely (bad feeling), I will also have to free myself from belonging (good feeling). I think hahaha. I’m kinda just writing and trying to figure it out at the same time 