I’m just popping this on here cause this has kinda been an ongoing issue that pops up for me quite often and im getting sick of it 
It’s gonna look a bit mental but it’s just word vomit I am trying to make sense of so any help would be appreciated
Got upset because I FELT (feeling not fact) Kuba was blaming me for not being able to take jobs on the weekend
- Feeling of being blamed stems from fear of not being “good” or being punished. I feel responsible for other people’s feelings. “I” am BEING upset, angry - there is also the feeling of justice. Feeling wrongfully accused.
Why am I upset: Justice, being told off, feeling like Kuba isn’t doing anything and just leaves it on me to just “figure it out” last minute.
Facts of the situation:
- He wants to not book things in advance in the future incase job requests comes up - okay, makes sense
- He wants to find somewhere we can leave Poncho if both of us are out the house for the day - okay, makes sense
How I took what he said -
You fucked up and are being aren’t being considerate, how you handled the situation isn’t good enough, you need to do better. You are not doing good enough - this brings up strong emotion, tears, throat closing, tight chest.
This is similar to Ian’s post in some ways but I cant quite get to seeing the belief for what it is