Vineeto to Claudiu: He [Syd] says he is “referring to above in my “established happiness as no. 1 priority”” – but there is not [quote] “established happiness as no. 1 priority” [endquote] that I can find. So what is that “established happiness” referring to? And then he talks about a “personal happiness” which was in the first paragraph I responded, which is a different thing to the “established happiness as no. 1 priority”?
It gives me knots in the brain. Perhaps you have more success in following all this – I lost interest for now. (link)
Hi Syd,
Let me expand why I said to Claudiu that I lost interest in further communication for now. It is not merely because the communication is sometimes at cross-purposes, it is because the situation seems to me like an aeroplane that doesn’t get off the ground, for as long as I can remember.
Adam gave a wonderfully sincere and observant description how he not only detected his own modus operandi regards actualism and exposed it by publicly admitting and describing it – he also concluded that “I’ve been having an experience lately of ‘determination’ in a good way” and “having this realization is not going somewhere new in and of itself, it will just be another high unless I actually walk the walk”. Here is Adam’s description of the original self-deceiving modus operandi –
Adam-H: It reminded me of how people can spend their entire lives in conflict with themselves over losing weight. They can have an internal narrative about the plans to lose weight and different strategies and methods that basically goes on and on forever. Perhaps the narrative itself is a sort of ‘sustenance’ for me that I take pleasure in, and it certainly works the same for actualism. Actually doing it is quite simple – sustaining the narrative that I’m doing it or want to do it is a circus of complexity and diversion. Actually doing it goes somewhere new – sustaining the narrative is walking in a circle composed of highs and lows. And of course – as a note to myself, having this realization is not going somewhere new in and of itself, it will just be another high unless I actually walk the walk. (link)
Since you came to the forum many undetected misunderstandings and misinterpretations came to light, which several people, including myself endeavoured to explain to you. One example in particular is where Claudiu patiently and expertly made it clear that –
Claudiu: “I want to add to what Vineeto wrote, which is that you’re even though you say that happiness and harmlessness are two different elements of the same thing, you’re nevertheless establishing a sequence of happiness first, then harmlessness second.
In practice, as they are both different ways to describe the same “motion”, there is no intrinsic sequence like you say here”. (…)
The reason I go into all this detail is to explain that the entry point is not asymmetrical, of happiness first and harmlessness as an add-on. It is symmetrical. (21 Feb 2026)
Now despite this brilliant exposition of the actualism method in practice, you concluded your first paragraph saying –
Syd: So yes, that’s a stellar example putting personal happiness over harmlessness. (…) (link)
Whatever your private distinctions are between “personal happiness” and “priority No. 1 happiness”, even in a hindsight report you are keeping the word “happiness” as a substitute for pursuing your desires – and then present another definition what it should really mean, (presently work in progress in the planning and ‘good intentions’ department) when you intend, one day, to genuinely become happy and harmless.
You even admit that there was no realisation which called for action to change, rather present an argument for stalling and postponement –
Syd: Regarding Geoffrey’s “find it in yourself to take a first clear step in the right direction, such as making a commitment to happiness and harmlessness” – I am finding that ‘making a commitment’ doesn’t happen overnight, it takes quite a bit of sincere awareness and common sense, both of which work towards enabling resoluteness.
This very belief, that it “doesn’t happen overnight” has kept ‘you’ firmly in the place where you started from, going round and round in circles, as Adam so honestly and illuminatingly described as his own previous modus operandi.
This is all (most likely unconscious) eye-washing, lip-service, mind-games, and I no longer want to contribute to it. With all the valuable information you received, I’ll wait for it to gestate, germinate and come to fruition in a life-changing sincerity, which cuts right to the root of your self-deception – and this is something only you can do, by yourself and for yourself.
Cheers Vineeto