Sincerity

[Vineeto]

@claudiu

@Vineeto

I will stop you right here. When you say you have been “putting personal happiness over harmlessness” you are under the erroneous impression that you have done half of what the actualism of becoming happy and harmless represents by simply following your drives and urges.

Did you read the next part of Syd’s post where he wrote that he recognized that what that phrase you italicized here doesn’t refer to the actualist way of doing things? Emphasis added:

@syd

What I was referring to above in my “established happiness as no. 1 priority” was not this “personal happiness”, but rather genuinely enjoying being alive and going about life however it unfolds, instead of say seeking or fretting emotional validation from others (including Ms. Morel). If I had established this priority, I would not have felt nervous during the dates in the first place, would not have demanded that she feel certain way to me, and certainly would have caught myself falling in love sooner than later.

Hi Claudiu,

I appreciate you trying to clarify.

I read the paragraph from Syd several times and after your post came in I read it at least five more times and I still cannot make sense of it.

He says he is “referring to above in my “established happiness as no. 1 priority”” – but there is not [quote] “established happiness as no. 1 priority” [endquote] that I can find. So what is that “established happiness” referring to? And then he talks about a “personal happiness” which was in the first paragraph I responded, which is a different thing to the “established happiness as no. 1 priority”?

It gives me knots in the brain. Perhaps you have more success in following all this – I lost interest for now.

Cheers Vineeto