Syd: Hi Vineeto – With Ms. Morel (formerly ‘WomanFromNov’), right after falling in love, I was more than putting my personal happiness first, in fact that’s all (my own emotions) I could think of. She felt that caring and sharing from my part was lacking, and I didn’t consider her perspective much (which is no wonder as I was panicking all the time). So yes, that’s a stellar example putting personal happiness over harmlessness. (…) (link)
Hi Syd,
I will stop you right here. When you say you have been “putting personal happiness over harmlessness” you are under the erroneous impression that you have done half of what the actualism of becoming happy and harmless represents by simply following your drives and urges.
I wonder if you read, and digested, what Claudiu wrote to you –
Claudiu: I want to add to what Vineeto wrote, which is that you’re even though you say that happiness and harmlessness are two different elements of the same thing, you’re nevertheless establishing a sequence of happiness first, then harmlessness second.
In practice, as they are both different ways to describe the same “motion”, there is no intrinsic sequence like you say here. (link).
In other words, if being happy does not contain being harmless, or if being harmless does not contain feeling happy, it ain’t actualism. It is what everybody is already doing, and it hasn’t worked.
I can only recommend to read my post (link) and Claudiu’s post (link) again, and again, until you comprehend the fundamental change that is required in your thinking and assessment in order to understand what we are talking about.
Until then there is no benefit for me to comment further on your writing. I cannot do the thinking for you.
Cheers Vineeto