Not sure where to reply, with all the moving of posts… @Kub933
The point of about love and hurt for me is about the specific instance.
Lately, I have been realising that a lot of my ‘romantic love’ is motivated by wanting to be rejected.
It’s something I hadn’t seen before. Further, I also will reject, eventually, those same people.
If that wasn’t my reality, perhaps another ‘hurt’ would be.
So, I agree that in general terms malice arises naturally in everyone at some point early on in life, however the specifics of the expression can be quite different when it comes to how “love” is being experienced and expressed.
As observed by Annie Lennox in that song “sweet dreams”.
“Some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused by you.”
With the perverse twist that it can be true of the same person simultaneously.