• {6th copy-pasted message}: srid-ballina-2024>04-11 Rick: liking everything; April 12 2024.
[Rick said]: “Yes, people dislike all kinds of things, including themselves. Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?”
Srid [7:37 AM]: I did not arrive at naiveté through liking everything I dislike. It was accidental, actually, but the conditions were in place. The sequence, as you remember, went like this: || I felt bad | I kept getting back to feeling good, but same triggers would happen again | I had identity crisis | Which lead me to take a good look at the social identity, all the way to instinctual passions | I made it my goal to be aware of instinctual passions, and decline going down the path | This is where, magically, I started noticing that I can (and do) like the very people who otherwise would make me feel bad (by way of instinctual passions) ||. In particular note that I arrived at this “liking” only after bypassing/ overriding the instinctual passions. And then I saw how this is near-innocence part (naivete) of me in action. So, if you “dislike [something]” you gotta first become aware of the instinctual passions (that evoke this dislike), and then by-pass/ over-ride (ie., go one step below) it, before you can come across the naive part of yourself where you can be liking and likeable.
Rick [7:41 AM]: Very good. So, what would you say to this: “Rick said: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?”
Srid: How about you find out?
Rick [7:41 AM]: :neutral smiley:
Srid: That’s the best approach I’d say. Have the conditions in place first. Feel good, enjoy & appreciate—which necessitates being aware of instinctual passions and over-riding them. Then you can find out (not before).
Rick [7:45 AM]: Did you find out?
Srid: That question didn’t even occur to me.
Rick7:46 AM: And now it appears before you.
• {7th copy-pasted message}: srid-ballina-2024>04-11 Rick: liking everything; April 12 2024.
Srid [7:48 AM]: I understand you are interested in finding out. I’m saying I never was/ nor am I interested in finding that out. You do understand the list of things that I have as priority in Ballina, and how this question is not in that list, right? Furthermore, you comprehend that my trip in Ballina is about experientially making progress, not just entertain questions I’m not interested in the first place?
[Rick said]: “I’m asking about your experience of naivete. Given that you experienced it, I asked the following: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?”
Srid [7:48 AM]: Also, I came across naivete (experientially) only 4 days ago. And Richard did like what 20 years ago? He has written a lot on that subject, but I don’t think Richard was able to answer your question. I’m not sure if I can either, even if I try to ‘think’ my way through it like a philosopher.
[Rick said]: “It’s not a philosophical question. I’m enquiring into the nature of your experience. Did you like everything?”
Srid [7:51 AM]: Unwaveringly liking one’s fellow human creature/ one’s fellow human creatures. This is what “liking”, as I’ve been using, refers to. Do you unwavering like your wife (as a fellow human being, a female at that), no matter how much of an (affective) problem she may create? Instead you want to know whether you can like rape.
[Rick said]: “So, you did not like everything? What was it that you did not like?”
Srid [7:55 AM]: Everything indicated by the instinctual passions. Hence, over-ride it to come across the liking/ likeable aspect of you. For e.g., your wife pisses you off. Can you go one step below that instinctual passion and find her liking/ and thus have you become likeable?
[Rick said]: “So you did not like ‘Srid’ who is the instinctual passions (and the instinctual passions are ‘Srid’). ‘He’ you did not like. Now, with my wife. No, I don’t see how to do that (though I’m looking out for a way to do that). I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike. Is that the only thing that you disliked—the instinctual passions?”
Srid [8:00 AM]: Richard put it better than that: “Srid said: I started off getting confirmation that I’m on the right track. Vineeto wondered if I’m not connecting liking/ likeable to naivete. I do, as I see an element of near-innocence on liking the other (overriding instinctual passions). Vineeto confirmed my report of spontaneous social interactions as being on right track. Richard brought up the ‘naivete spot’ thing where how once you go past (override) the instinctual passions you come to area where you are both liking and likeable. People don’t like themselves as they (instinctually) are. Naivete is where they can like themselves. All of this made sense to me indeed, especially in relation to the recent social identity exploration cum instinctual passion awareness and the eventual discovery of naivete. What a freedom is it indeed to discover the naive part of me that can be liking and likeable regardless of how the other feels towards me”.
Srid [8:01 AM]: So, yes, I don’t like myself as I instinctually am. Being naive is where I can like myself/ and like others.
[Rick said]: “I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike”.
Srid [8:01 AM]: Become aware of the instinctual passion (aggression). Go one step below (with the intention of getting back to feeling good) … Profit!! (you may well come across liking): [???? PROFIT!!!! | Know Your Meme].
Rick [8:03 AM]: And my question was, when you came across this “liking”, did it apply to everything, without exclusion (instinctual passions aside)? Or, were there things you disliked?
Srid [8:04 AM]: Why would you want to put “instinctual passions aside”?
Rick [8:04 AM]: I put them aside because you already said that, when naive, you did not like them. So we know that there’s at least one thing you do not like when being naivete.
Srid [8:05 AM]: You can’t put them aside, it is totally relevant. When you remove instinctual passions out of the equation, there’s no point to talking about liking.
Rick [8:05 AM]: No point? Doesn’t liking epitomize the naive state?
Srid [8:08 AM]: Yes, for e.g., if instinctual passions played no part in your relation with your wife, there would not be anger, and you’d be feeling good (and then liking). Are you still commited to feeling good? If so, in what way does your question help towards that goal such that you can get back to feeling good from being angry (instinctual passion of aggression) with your wife? I feel like you are neglecting first principles. You are shooting these questions from the void, but they don’t arise from the first principle of feeling good.
Rick [8:10 AM]: My wife’s tantrums are just one of the many, many things I dislike. I also dislike bladder infections, and paying taxes, and not getting enough sleep, and torn rotator cuffs, and so on and so on. I also dislike thieves, and pederasts, and squatters, and all the other things Richard mentioned. I have a long list of things I dislike. Hence my interest in a state where one, from what I understood, liked everything.
Srid [8:14 AM]: How about you find out? Then, it goes back to the above. As well as: “Srid said: Feel good, enjoy & appreciate—which necessitates being aware of instinctual passions and over-riding them”. So, feel good—enjoy & appreciate—no matter what happens, including when: || your wife throwing tantrums | having bladder infections (unless pain becomes extreme) | paying taxes (this can be a delightful cognitive activity, actually) | not getting enough sleep (at least feel good) | torn rotator cuffs (unless pain becomes extreme) | dealing with thieves (Richard reported one incident of a purse-snatcher) | pederasts in news | dealing with squatters ||. Which, among that list, is your most frequent issue? That’d be a best place to start.
Rick [8:14 AM]: To start what? Going from disliking them to liking them?
Srid [8:16 AM]: To find out whether you can unwaveringly like your fellow human creature/ your fellow human creatures (wife, thieves, pederasts, squatters), which is what “liking” refers to. Just make feeling good your priority. This is where you’ve gone astray. Fix that shit. That’s where you start. Stop masturbating to intellectual concerns regarding “liking everything”. Start from where you are—disliking (instinctual disgust), and get back to feeling good. Go bottom up, not top down.
Rick [8:19 AM]: The question was I thought exceedingly basic and entirely the opposite of intellectual. I was just asking about your experience and whether you liked everything or maintained a dislike for some things. See?
[Rick said]: “Yes, people dislike all kinds of things, including themselves. Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?”
Srid [8:21 AM]: The question is purely intellectual, because giving you a straight answer (either way) is not going to make a dent into actualism method, as you will continue to get pissed at your wife. Nothing’s gonna change fundamentally. See the problem?
Rick [8:23 AM]: You make a series of assumptions. I make no assumptions. I simply asked a straightforward question to which I am yet to receive a straightforward answer.
Why? I don’t know. If it’s hard to say/ answer, you could just say so.
Srid [8:25 AM]: Simple explanation is that I’m trying to nudge you towards actually being liking/likeable, rather than go astray for yet another time. You’ve been at it for what 15 years?
Rick [8:26 AM]: 20 years this September
Srid [8:27 AM]: You might also want to ask yourself: in what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to resolve the below? (i.e.,“Now, with my wife. No, I don’t see how to do that (though I’m looking out for a way to do that). I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike”).
Rick [8:27 AM]: “[Srid said]: “I’m trying to nudge you towards actually being liking/ likeable”. I appreciate that. Now, are you trying to nudge me towards actually liking everything or just some things? “Srid said: You might also want to ask yourself: in what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to resolve the below? (i.e., “Now, with my wife. No, I don’t see how to do that (though I’m looking out for a way to do that”). I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike)”.
As I said before, my wife’s tantrums aren’t the only thing I dislike. If I do in fact manage to get to a point where I like my wife’s tantrums, what about everything else? Can one get to a state—specifically, naive state—where [one] likes everything, no exclusion? Or will one still dislike things?
Srid [8:32 AM]: “liking everything or just some things”; “like my wife’s tantrums”.
Neither of what you wrote above is what is meant by ‘liking’. Here’s what the word means: unwaveringly liking one’s fellow human creature/ one’s fellow human creatures. Naivete is a state of being wherein you are unwaveringly liking your fellow humans.
Rick [8:34 AM]: I got that. Liking human beings: :check_mark: What about everything else?
Srid [9:04 AM]: Find out for yourself—that’s part of naiveté … wonderment, the not-knowing.
Srid [9:09 AM]: “Srid said: You might also want to ask yourself: in what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to resolve the below? (i.e., “Now, with my wife. No, I don’t see how to do that (though I’m looking out for a way to do that). I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike”).
I just noticed that you side-stepped this question entirely And your answer is a non-sequiter
[Rick said]: “As I said before, my wife’s tantrums aren’t the only thing I dislike. If I do in fact manage to get to a point where I like my wife’s tantrums, what about everything else?”
Srid [9:18 AM]: No, by ‘resolve’ I mean enjoy and appreciate her company. Not ‘like [your] wife’s tantrums’. First principles, once again. See a pattern? These two things are not identical. Please fix your comprehension skills first: “unwaveringly liking one’s fellow human creature/ one’s fellow human creatures”.
Rick [9:20 AM]: I like my wife sometimes, and sometimes I don’t, particularly when she’s angry or throwing a tantrum. “Rick said: What about everything else?” “Srid said: Find out for yourself—that’s part of naiveté … wonderment, the not-knowing”.
If I asked you how the weather was over there, you could tell me. I ask whether you like everything when being naive, and you cannot tell me. Why? If you unwaveringly liked humans when naive, that’s wonderful. My question was whether you (unwaveringly) liked everything or whether there were things you still didn’t like.
Srid [9:20 AM]: You are still evading that question. For clarify, I shall rephrase it: In what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to make you enjoy and appreciate your wife’s company come what may (including the moments of throwing a tantrum)?
Rick [9:24 AM]: This is the one question I have not answered: “Srid said: You might also want to ask yourself: in what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to resolve the below?”
My interest /investment in the question, at this point, is twofold: 1. What am I aiming for? My like or dislike of humans is not my main preoccupation. I dislike all manner of things, not just humans. To focus solely on just one of my dislikes, to the exclusion of all my other dislikes, seems misplaced. 2. There is now a delightful curiosity and bafflement at the evasive nature you are displaying, and I’m more interested/invested than ever.
Srid [9:25 AM]: So: “Rick said: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?” (“no exceptions” is the more common phrasing).
It is really very simple. “Srid said: In what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to make you enjoy and appreciate your wife’s company come what may (including the moments of throwing a tantrum)?” “Rick: 1. What am I aiming for? My like or dislike of humans is not my main preoccupation. I dislike all manner of things, not just humans. To focus solely on just one of my dislikes, to the exclusion of all my other dislikes, seems misplaced”.
Could you explain where exactly in that complicated answer above you have indicated the connection to enjoying and appreciating your wife’s company come what may (including the moments of throwing a tantrum)? Because I only see word soup.
Rick [9:31 AM]: “Srid said: In what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to make you enjoy and appreciate your wife’s company come what may (including the moments of throwing a tantrum)?”
I do not know [precisely] in what way this investment into having this particular question answered is going to make me enjoy and appreciate my wife’s company come what may. I’m collecting information about the state of naivete. Whether that data will benefit me in the future or not, who is to say? Now, can you supply the information I requested? If you are unable to because you do not know, then that is understandable.
If you do know, then why not share it?
Srid [9:37 AM]: “Rick said: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?” and “I do not know [precisely] in what way this investment into having this particular question question answered is going to make me enjoy and appreciate my wife’s company come what may”.
In that case, I suggest making feeling good come what may your No. 1 priority over anything else, including “collecting information about the state of naivete”. Unless you do, nothing I say in response will be actually helpful or productive, and you will continue to gloss over the distinctions I made above (such as this).
Rick [9:39 AM]: I am not glossing over the distinction. I am highlighting and emphasising the distinction, if anything. “Srid said: These two things are not identical. Please fix your comprehension skills first: unwaveringly liking one’s fellow human creature/ one’s fellow human creatures”.
I know. One thing is not the other. Does naivete mean that one can like both? Let’s go to a different question. Simple question—do you experientially know the answer to the following? “Rick said: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?” Note, I’m [no longer] asking you the question I asked at the beginning of this thread. I’m just asking whether you know or not.
Srid [9:49 AM]: Yet your original reply to me indicated that you do not see the distinction (nor are willing to see it): “Srid: In what way is your investment into having this particular question answered going to make you enjoy and appreciate your wife’s company come what may (including the moments of throwing a tantrum)?” “Rick: Now, with my wife. No, I don’t see how to [enjoy and appreciate her company come what including the moments of throwing a tantrum] (though I’m looking out for a way to do that). I only see the anger, which, like you, I dislike. As I said before, my wife’s tantrums aren’t the only thing I dislike. If I do in fact manage to get to a point where I like my wife’s tantrums, what about everything else?”
Instead of attempting to make use of my time here to get an understanding of that very distinction (with the goal of enjoying & appreciating the company of your wife, for example, come what may) you are demonstrating more interest in “collecting information about the state of naivete” by distracting yourself over “everything else”. This is why you are going at it for almost 20 years.
I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being. That is to say, you are trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions (ie., going one step below).
Naiveté cannot be discovered that way. Hence, why I’m engaging with you here the way I do.
Rick [9:54 AM]: I have asked a singular question in a variety of ways: “Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?” or “It’s not a philosophical question. I’m enquiring into the nature of your experience. Did you like everything?”
Such a simple question. Is it that you do not know whether there were things you didn’t like during your experience of naivete? I have by now directly addressed every single question you posed to me. The one question I have asked of you, all this while, since the very beginning, you have deliberately declined to answer. I won’t ask it anymore at this time. If you see your way around to answering it at some point, it would be most appreciated.
Srid [9:55 AM]: Yes, see: “Srid: I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being. That is to say, you are trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions (ie., going one step below)” and “Srid: Naiveté cannot be discovered that way. Hence, why I’m engaging with you here the way I do”.
You really have to grasp this, and think outside the box. Also, I’m not a machine or AI that you can pose any questions to and get answers right away. I also care … care that others become free. It is as as clear as a day, as I explained above (ie., “I’m guessing …”) you are going off-track.
Rick [9:57 AM]: “Srid said: Yes, see: Srid: I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being. That is to say, you are trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions (ie., going one step below)” and “Srid: Naiveté cannot be discovered that way. Hence, why I’m engaging with you here the way I do. You really have to grasp this, and think outside the box”.
All this because you have erroneously “guessed” that I am trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions. “Srid said: It is as as clear as a day, as I explained above (ie., “I’m guessing …”) you are going off-track”. There’s nothing clear about guessing. It’s a stab in the dark. And you missed.
Srid [10:01 AM]: It wasn’t just a guess; there were many indicators along the way. Look, this is not litigation. I’m just trying to help you out. But if you are not curious about what I discovered recently, and discussed with Richard/ Vineeto, about unwaveringly liking one’s fellow human beings—as distinct from liking one’s wife tantrums or liking “everything else”—so be it.
I would be better off spending my time on something else.
I can see why Richard/ Vineeto impresses upon enjoying & appreciating as the first thing to do. The identity is rather cunning that it’d rather distract itself with anything but that. I went through it myself; cf. the “bad habits”.
Rick [10:02 AM]: “Srid said: But if you are not curious about what I discovered recently”.
On the contrary! I am [exceedingly curious and am] endeavoring to learn about precisely what you discovered. And you, for some reason, will not divulge. “Rick said: I’m asking about your experience of naivete. Given that you experienced it, I asked the following: Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions?” and “Rick said: It’s not a philosophical question. I’m enquiring into the nature of your experience. Did you like everything?”
Srid [10:04 AM]: In a way, your question was answered. Understand the distinction. “Srid said: Yes, see: I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being. That is to say, you are trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions (ie., going one step below)” and “Naiveté cannot be discovered that way. Hence, why I’m engaging with you here the way I do. You really have to grasp this, and think outside the box”. “Rick said: All this because you have erroneously “guessed” that I am “trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions”.
This is your response to my drawing the distinction. That doesn’t indicate you are “exceedingly curious”. I’ve copied pasted this 3 times now!
Rick [10:07 AM]: You are telling me how to discover naivete. I never asked how, I asked what. Specifically, what is it that you discovered? Did you discover that naivete means liking everything, or only liking some things? We can get to the how once we explore the what.
Srid [10:08 AM]: The distinction is about ‘what’ as well. Squint your way, focus on the bold text. First bold text.
Rick [10:08 AM]: I will copy back the bold text so that we see the same thing … “Srid said: I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being. That is to say, you are trying to find a way out without over-riding the instinctual passions (ie., going one step below)” and “I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being”. and “Naiveté cannot be discovered that way”.
I see you (erroneously) guessing something and then telling me how naivete is not to be discovered like that.
Oh hold on!
I may see something…
Srid [10:11 AM]: There’s no guessing required here, actually, it is easy to see from what you described as how you envision “liking” your wife’s “tantrums”. Not the same as what I discovered.
Rick [10:12 AM]: Bear with me … I think I see you may be correct about something. What its implications are, we shall see … “Srid said: I’m guessing that both your “like my wife’s tantrums” and “like everything else” still falls under the instinctual way of being”.
Can I say that you are guessing whether the dislike I have for my wife’s tantrums is instinctually similar to the dislike I have for other [unlikeable] things?
Srid [10:14 AM]: No, that’s unrelated. By “still falls under” I mean you are looking at these through the instinctive lens of instinctual passions, because you have not so far over-ridden then (go back one step) which first requries being aware of them with the intention of getting back to feeling good. Which explains why you think naiveté is about “liking your wife’s tantrums” (as opposed to liking her as a fellow human being) or “liking everything”. Naiveté is a state of being, from which it is possible to be liking/ likeable (as a state of being).
Rick [10:17 AM]: Good. So, naivete is not a state of being wherein everything is liked. There are some things, like “tantrums” that are still disliked in the naive state, correct?
Srid [10:17 AM]: Again, you are instinctively looking at it through instinctual lens.
Rick [10:18 AM]: Let’s establish one thing. Naivete = unreservedly liking humans, yes?
Srid [10:18 AM]: Richard and Vineeto described an aspect of naivete (during the Covid-19, climate change, etc. conversation) … there’s an element of openness, “I do not know”. This is what is markedly lacking here.
Rick [10:19 AM]; That’s perfectly fine. Am I to understand that you “do not know”?
Srid [10:20 AM]: “Rick said: There are some things, like “tantrums” that are still disliked in the naive state, correct?”
This indicates you wanting to “know” (ahead of over-riding the instinctual passions) something that is not even relevant to know (because by the time you discover naivete, it becomes a non-question).
Rick [10:21 AM]: And since you overrode the instinctual passions, do you know?
Srid [10:21 AM]: It is easy for me to directly answer your question (I know the answer), and then have you go your way for another 20 years of “collecting information about the state of naivete”.
Rick [10:22 AM]: Hallelujah! One question in the bag. Simple question from earlier: “Rick said: Let’s go to a different question. Simple question—do you experientially know the answer to the following? Is naivete a state where people can like everything, no exclusions? Note, I’m [no longer] asking you the question I asked at the beginning of this thread. I’m just asking whether you know or not”.
Srid [10:22 AM]: “Srid said: This indicates you wanting to “know” (ahead of over-riding the instinctual passions)”. “Rick said: And since you overrode the instinctual passions, do you know?”
Yes, and I’m going to continue having fun keeping you in suspense, until you comprehend the distinction above.
Rick [10:22 AM]: “Rick said: And since you overrode the instinctual passions, do you know?” “Srid said: Yes …”.
Thank you
“Srid said: I’m going to continue having fun keeping you in suspense, until you comprehend the distinction above”.
Okay, next up. Comprehension of some-such “distinction”. (And I’m pleased that you’re having fun, even if it is at my expense/suspense). Can you please clarify the distinction you are trying to make? (I too have been having fun, by the way … yes, even with, or perhaps because, of the suspense).
Srid [10:31 AM]: I tried a few times, like here[*].
[*][https://actual.zulipchat.com/#narrow/stream/431899-srid-ballina-2024/topic/04-11.20Rick.3A.20liking.20*everything*/near/432807363].
Rick [10:32 AM]: “Srid said: By “still falls under” I mean you are looking at these through the instinctive lens of instinctual passions, because you have not so far over-ridden then (go back one step) which first requries being aware of them with the intention of getting back to feeling good”. A distinction requires at least two things which are disparate/ distinct. What in the above is item 1, and what is item 2? Because I’m failing to see how the above in any way relates to the question I’ve been asking since the very beginning of this thread.
Srid [10:34 AM]: Difference between the two:
• You are angry. Try to “like” your wife as a fellow human being (anger still in-situ); try to “like” her tantrums; etc.
• You are angry. Be aware of it, go one step below (you are no longer angry). Serendipitously come across a state of being wherein you like her (and are likeable), no matter what she gets up to (including throwing tantrums).
Rick [10:37 AM]: You are providing instructions. “Try to ‘like’…”, and “Be aware…”, are instructions pertaining to achieving a state wherein I like a human being. While all well and good, I do appreciate the instruction/ advice for attaining a state wherein I like a human being, my question at the outset was about something else entirely.
Srid [10:38 AM]: They are descriptions of what happens, not instructions for you.
Rick [10:39 AM]: Thank you for clarifying that they are descriptions and not instructions. I still see that they are describing the attainment of a state wherein I like a human being, whereas my question at the outset was about something else entirely.
Srid [10:39 AM]: When you understand the distinction between the two, the next step is to comprehend how your question is within the frame of the first bullet point {i.e., •}, ergo irrelevant to naivete (second bullet point).
Rick [10:40 AM]: Thank you, that is helpful. I am to understand that liking/ disliking things—other than humans—is irrelevant to naivete?
Srid [10:41 AM]: Suppose the answer is:
• Yes. In what way, will this lead to you enjoying and appreciating the company of your wife or doing taxes?
Suppose the answer is:
• No. In what way, will this lead to you enjoying and appreciating the company of your wife or doing taxes?
Rick [10:42 AM]: There’s an element of openness, “I do not know”. Let’s see, eh? “Srid said: So, if you “dislike [something]” you gotta first become aware of the instinctual passions (that evoke this dislike), and then by-pass/ over-ride (ie., go one step below) it, before you can come across the naive part of yourself where you can be liking and likeable”. I note here (your first message in this thread), where you said that if I disliked “something” then it was possible to, eventually, come to where I can “be liking”. Please note that you specifically said “something”—and “something” could, of course, be anything—which means this transition from disliking to liking need not be limited to humans. Perhaps you meant to say: [example]: So, if you “dislike [a human]” you gotta first become aware of the instinctual passions (that evoke this dislike), and then by-pass/over-ride (ie., go one step below) it, before you can come across the naive part of yourself where you can be liking and likeable.
Srid [11:09 AM]: I said “dislike [something]”. But not “like something”; instead, I said, “be liking [and likeable]”.
IMO, it is best to find your way to naiveté through enjoying and appreciating, rather than thinking your way in.
• {8th copy-pasted message}: srid-ballina-2024>04-11 Rick: liking everything; 12 April 2024.
Rick [11:24 AM]: “Srid said: I said “dislike [something]”. But not “like something”; instead, I said, “be liking [and likeable]”. Thank you, I’m aware. You advised: If I dislike something I gotta first become aware of the instinctual passions that evoke the dislike [of that thing], before I can come across the naive part of myself where I can be liking. Liking what? Not that something?
Srid [11:41 AM]: If you dislike doing taxes, become aware of your objections (maybe fear), decline going down that route, and enjoy and appreciate this moment of doing taxes. If you dislike your wife giving tantrums, become aware of your feelings all the way to instinctual passions, become aware and of it, decline going down that path, go one step below passions and meet the other as a fellow human being (while enjoying and appreciating). You may come across liking/ likeable here as I did.