Leila to Ed: I wished I had waited till I come back to feeling good, then write that post, I did this again! Now I regret and sad about it …
Well if I had applied Richard’s method correctly moment to moment, I would have been at least virtually free by now!
I must have confused people here with my writings, I see that I am a bad contributor to this forum!
Feeling sad again!
So, let me come back to feeling good or at least feeling neutral, Ed, and then I come back and reply to your writings. (link)
Hi Leila,
There is a famous poem from Henry Wadsworth Longfellow – a revered American poet and educator (1807-1882) – called “A Psalm of Life”, and many schoolchildren had to learn it by heart – it summarizes and represents a quasi-religious depiction of what life is in the real world. Here are just three stanzas –
Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.Not enjoyment, and not sorrow,
Is our destined end or way;
But to act, that each to-morrow
Find us farther than to-day.Art is long, and Time is fleeting,
And our hearts, though stout and brave,
Still, like muffled drums, are beating
Funeral marches to the grave. (…)
It seems you have inadvertently transferred this near-ubiquitous paradigm of life-in-the-real-world to what you read of actualism and turned it into a real-world chore with a moral score, adding more blame and sorrow to the misery you already experience.
Let me make it simple with a piece of writing from Richard, which I quoted to Ed only yesterday –
Richard: Look, the whole point of minimising both the malicious/ sorrowful feelings (the ‘bad’ feelings) and their antidotal loving/ compassionate feelings (the ‘good’ feelings) whilst maximising the felicitous/ innocuous feelings (the ‘congenial’ feelings) is to make for a potent combination when this untrammelled conviviality operates in conjunction with a naïve sensuosity – whereby one is both likeable and liking – such that the benevolence and benignity of pure intent may increasingly become dynamically enabled for one purpose and one purpose alone … to wit: for the already always existing peace-on-earth to become apparent, in this lifetime, as this flesh-and-blood body. [Emphases added]. (Richard, List D, Martin, 6 Mar 2016).
Whenever this is not your purpose then using “Richard’s method” is a waste of time at best and counterproductive to your well-being to boot, so you might as well desist and decline applying it as a moral code, relax and have one set of morality less with which to beat yourself up.
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As for sorting out facts from fiction – if you are indeed doing something akin to the BRAT diet as Ed supposed (link) – here are two entries which caught my attention on Google AI –
Why is the BRAT diet no longer recommended?
The BRAT diet (Bananas, Rice, Applesauce, Toast) is no longer recommended because it is overly restrictive, lacks essential nutrients, and fails to support gastrointestinal recovery. Health organizations like the American Academy of Pediatrics now advise resuming a normal, balanced diet as soon as possible. *(Cleveland Clinic Health Essentials)
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Why Medical Experts Shifted Away from BRAT
Lack of Key Nutrients: Following the diet for more than 24 hours can lead to malnutrition and energy deficits. It lacks protein, fat, fiber, and essential vitamins (like B12) needed to help your body heal. (Cleveland Clinic Health Essentials)
You surely can find more detailed information and then sort out the facts when you put your mind to it.
Cheers Vineeto