Haha, nice one!
Yes it was really impactful to me to see especially the “Dependent Personality Disorder” descriptions. My last girlfriend was undiagnosed NPD (narcistic personality disorder_) of the “covert” type, which some experts say is properly not the same disorder as the “malignant or grandiose” versions of narcissism.
Watching Prof. Sam Vaknin (who is both NPD and ASPD) describe how both cluster C and Cluster B, both share a lack of “ego”. They are both characterized by “false selves” which are highly performative, always manipulating, and are emotionally two years old at best.
Large numbers of humans never “grow up”; rather through “objectification”, develop a performative personality which is more like an imaginary friend than the “normal” sense of ‘self’
Anyway, I hope you realize i wasn’t criticizing you, rather just discussing a topic which came to mind.
One of the things that i would say did start to change something fundamental in my outlook in late 2024, leading to a better 2025 as far as some honesty and less performance, was learning about that performative and manipulative “false self” that both cluster C and cluster B personalities share.
Although I have no idea if i was ever clinical, (which i doubt), i saw so much in the definitions that it made me stop and reflect on who it was that i was trying to be?
The “close up” experience of my last girlfriend also freed me from any judgements i had about such people. It really isn’t some moral failing, or some choice they made. These things are formed from the womb. Then I learnt that in some tangible way, I fit the description of a dependent personality, and there was some softness towards myself and the human condition, a tangential sideways glance at giving myself and others “a break” 