Henry: This is selfish in nature because the belief in the victimhood of the other is felt… ‘I’ know they are suffering because ‘I’ feel their suffering. In this sense, the counter-attack is defending one’s own ‘self.’ The pang is personal, and the defensive aggression is personal.
Vineeto; Are you talking about yourself when you say “the belief in the victimhood of the other is felt”? And that you feel your “counter-attack is defending one’s [your] own ‘self’”? And that your “defensive aggression is personal”? And that is why you first had to deal with fear and aggression? I am trying to understand your own emotional process and insights.
Henry: I’d say I was generalizing to humanity at large but it would be accurate to say that that is how I have experienced it. It has been diminishing of late, though, as I learn a new way. (link)
Hi Henry,
Thank you for your reply.
I did guess that but it appeared to be rather dissociated, so I thought I better ask.
Generalisations often are used to keep one’s delicate issues at arm’s length. It might well be a habit reinforced by the job you do.
Cheers Vineeto