That’s interesting, there’s something here I relate to as well but can’t quite put my finger on it. I do still take a certain responsibility for how others are feeling, like I am in charge of making everyone happy around me. Interesting stuff, I definitely prefer the sound of @Elgin’s interactions without any of that extra stuff!
Looking at it superficially just now it seems to be a fear of letting them down, like I still have some job to do in each interaction, the job seems to revolve around not upsetting them, like I am waking on eggshells. Because if I do not meet the criteria needed to keep them happy there is a chance of meeting their wrath or sadness instead.