Does such an investigation have lasting effects? Or do you have to keep going back and do it?
I struggle with similar issues, and for me the need for emotional validation is the main issue. I see two sensible ways to deal with it
- Balance out my life, focus and develop other interests so that my relationship is not the end-all-be-all of my existence.
- The feeling-being that craves emotional validation is the root cause. So work on eliminating that.