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Brought out of a really nice few days in a ‘new space’ of freedom when a friend thought I was rejecting her / seeing her as disposable
I found myself pulled into her narrative, that I was letting her down by not hanging out with her, talking with her.
I reduced its power but still as I was attempting to fall asleep (~30 minutes ago) I could see that I was no longer in that free-mind that I had recently broken into. The contrast was clear
I realized that I was trying to investigate (while vainly attempting sleep) from the space of not feeling well/semi-neutral, and could see that I was just going in circles. So I made a greater effort to get to feeling good
Because of the near proximity of the recent (relative) freedom, I soon found myself ‘out of the woods’ and back in a space of ‘free rein’
By the way, I think it’s very underrated to connect with one’s own PCEs, and pick out whatever characteristics can be recalled and use that ‘flavor’ when looking for feeling good/imitating the actual
Once I was experiencing purity again, I re-looked at the issue with my friend, and found to my surprise that the entire thing looked completely different
I can see now that she is one person among many, 30,000 people in my town alone, and that she does not have any more right to my time than any other person
I had been thinking of it in terms of her narrative, and in terms of the standard ‘friendship’ narrative, when the actual is so much bigger than that
It’s so predictably human for everything to be indexed back to the social
While I was attempting investigation from the space of feeling neutral-bad, I kept trying to ‘figure out’ the social angle, trying to piece the people and archetypes together in different ways to figure out the ‘right way’ that I should ‘do it.’
The best case scenario in this would be for me to ‘make a realization,’ ‘figure it out’ and ‘charge ahead’ with my new strategy… only to run into the weeds in short order as my ‘new strategy’ showed its lameness (as in, hobbled).
Rather, in the actual world, there is so much happening beyond these social archetypes
Even now countless cells within my body are metabolizing food, oxygen, and water, creating the energy necessary to do all the countless activities going on within my body
Just outside my house there are trees growing incrementally, shuttling water up from the ground
The wind is blowing tonight, rushing tremendous quantities of oxygen from one place to another
And here I am, fixated on the social, thinking that I need to ‘solve it’ for my security
My fear has been of boredom if I don’t have friends
How could I be bored? With all this activity going on
That boredom only exists at the social layer
Further to that, in this new free space (over the last couple of days) I’ve noticed that people have been remarkably friendly to me, approaching me
So all my plans to ‘figure out’ the social layer are merely the desperate strategems of a trapped entity, trying to manipulate and control others so I’m not alone
And they never work very well, I end up with the same repetitive interactions trying to force something to happen which isn’t happening
I can see that this is ‘leaving humanity’
The taboo aspect arises for me with this particular issue
It is ‘wrong’ to not prioritize friends, to not prioritize people
And here my attention is going to the motion of all things!
It’s so wonderful!
And in that social belief-layer is only ever more hurt feelings, more failures of attempting love over and over again