James: My ex-wife died yesterday which has brought up feelings of love and sadness. This has led me to look at “I am my feelings and my feelings are me.” To me this means ‘I’ am my feelings and my feelings are ‘me’. It is the ‘I’ and the ‘me’. That is who I am as long as I have this feeler and am not actually free.
I need to see the fact in this. Death is a fact.
I can’t go back to her this time because she is not there so I’m left with the feelings which are not a fact. (link).
Hi James,
Since you have already said good-bye to your ex-wife several times before in order to be finished with the feeling of love, perhaps the quote below might give you additional inspiration to overcome the sorrow of her final departure.
Also, you do not “have this feeler” you are the feeler.
RESPONDENT: What do you say to your grandchildren when they are hurt, desolate, crying?
RICHARD: I say the same to my grandchildren when they are hurt, desolate or crying as I say to any body and every body – no body is special – which is: all mental-emotional-psychic suffering is an unnecessary and self-inflicted wound. Any mental-emotional-psychic viciousness on the part of another, first and foremost, lies in the heart of the ‘giver’ and inevitably turns in on itself as existential sorrow. Thus, in the final analysis, it is the ‘giver’ who suffers the most intimately. As for the ‘receiver’ of any nastiness, it is entirely up to them what they do with it … apart from physical brutality, no-one can force their cruelty on another without the other’s acquiescence and compliance. (Richard, Gen. Correspondence, Page 9a, 21 May 2000).
Cheers Vineeto