Vineeto: Can you get back to feeling good? If so, once feeling good, find out what is so attractive about love/ the memory of love, in a friendly not forceful way, i.e. without antagonism or blame. In a relaxed inquiry the answer will eventually come forth.
Having found out the reason for love being so attractive to you, and acknowledged that ‘you’ are your feelings and your feeling are ‘you’, you can then experientially experiment with neither expressing (imagining) or repressing (“must go”) this strong feeling and contemplate, with sincere, genuine fascinated attention, about the way ‘you’ (the instinctual passions) operate.
Sincerity being the key to naiveté, a third alternative might hove into view. (link)
James: The fact is that love is not better than the actual world. Never has been and never will be. Love is a distraction from the actual world. (link)
Hi James,
As you said yourself in your last message “the experience of the PCE which brings forth pure intent is what is missing” (link), the “fact” which you state above is not experiential, hence presently ineffectual.
When you are ready to investigate further why love still has a hold on you, perhaps what Chrono said today might give you some clue how to look deeper –
Chrono: Why do I want this dream (of love and limerence) to be true? What is this dream composed of? I realized this past week that for the unknown path to become apparent that the belief in ALL of ‘my’ dreams would have to go. All of ‘my’ dreams were somewhere and somewhen else. They would never actually manifest here. This brought a strange sense of relief. I know at some level that I am only fooling myself with some deception. Then while leaving work and heading home I experienced a sensuousness I quite often experience at the end of the day and had a spontaneous realization that the end of ‘my’ dreams was also the end of all of ‘my’ nightmares. (link)
As Richard found out while he investigated the various components constituting his state of enlightenment –
Richard: By the time I had worked my way through this philosophical dilemma [of pacificism] I had to turn my sights upon the last thing that stood between me and an actual freedom. I would have to let go of the deeply ingrained concept of ‘The Good’. For this to happen I would have to eliminate ‘The Bad’ in me, or else I would be likely to go off the rails and run amok. Little did I realise that it was ‘The Good’ that kept ‘The Bad’ in place. I was soon to find this out. [Emphasis added] (Richard, Selected Correspondence, Enlightenment Resumé, #ahimsa).
Cheers Vineeto