Vineeto: The insight you are looking for is experiential, not cognitive.
James: Yes, the experience of the PCE which brings forth pure intent is what is missing. This is why love must go so as not to interfere with this experience. (link)
Hi James,
You saying “this is why love must go” shows that you better re-read what I said in my last message –
Vineeto: So you see, “I need to” is not going to eliminate/ dissolve your feeling/ memory of love, as powerful as the feeling of love can be, you can only find the reason why love is not good enough, in fact “mere baubles”, in comparison with the rememorated or direct experience of the actual world.
‘You’ cannot command your ‘self’ to do something or not do something – you would only split yourself in two and have a fight with yourself.
I understand that it can be difficult to recall the memory of a PCE or to connect to pure intent when in the grip of a strong emotion.
Can you get back to feeling good? If so, once feeling good, find out what is so attractive about love/ the memory of love, in a friendly not forceful way, i.e. without antagonism or blame. In a relaxed inquiry the answer will eventually come forth.
Having found out the reason for love being so attractive to you, and acknowledged that ‘you’ are your feelings and your feeling are ‘you’, you can then experientially experiment with neither expressing (imagining) or repressing (“must go”) this strong feeling and contemplate, with sincere, genuine fascinated attention, about the way ‘you’ (the instinctual passions) operate.
Sincerity being the key to naiveté, a third alternative might hove into view.
Cheers Vineeto