Actualism is quite a wonderful thing
When I think of what I want for my newly-born 1-month old son, for how I want him to be when he grows up / what to ‘accomplish’ etc…
All that comes to mind is, I want him to enjoy and appreciate being alive, to have a life as filled with enjoyment and appreciation as possible!
After all, what’s the point of being alive in the first place, if not that? 
What a contrast to what it would otherwise be, for them to be smart or to accomplish this or that or be financially or romantically successful or have kids of their own or … this way it really simplifies and avoids any and all of those pitfalls of wishes or desires I’d have for him