A major thing is seeing a deeply ingrained and conditioned habit of avoidance I have. I came to see its habitual, a fear of anything unfamiliar or not already unknown. But then I ask myself (hoving closer to actuality) is anything actually wrong happening? And I see that no, although it’s unfamiliar and I am afraid, nothing is actually wrong. So then I allow it to continue as I see it is safe.
This does wonders in that I think this is also the key mechanism underlying procrastination. Now instead of procrastinating I just do something, even if I may not know exact outcome. And it just makes all so much easier and so far working out brilliantly.
The other thing is after a short while of doing this with regard to self-immolating via allowing it to happen, the unfamiliar feeling goes away! Because what I am experiencing becomes increasingly familiar haha. Because now it’s been experienced for a while. So now I can be as close as I was before while feeling a fear of unfamiliarity, but now it’s increasingly familiar and experienced as safe!