Vineeto: To have sincere intent is vital. I noticed an aspect in your report is about control, ‘me’ controlling ‘me’ to move into the direction ‘I’ think is right – and that approach is sudorific, at best. Even though the ingredient may be right, the outcome is still a serious enterprise of ‘you’ forcing yourself to be in a particular way.
Kuba: Oh my… this has began to click recently that my whole journey ‘I’ had made sudorific in one way or another. It was all ‘I’ knew to do, “go hard or go home” even when it is supposed to be easy!
How could allowing ‘myself’ to feel good each moment again for the rest of ‘my’ life be hard or sudorific? What silliness haha.
‘I’ was on a very serious mission to slay dragons and complete all sorts of very sudorific quests because that was all ‘I’ knew to do.
It’s interesting that the actualism method can seem so difficult and yet isn’t living in the real world so very difficult? The suffering that each denizen of the real world manages to get through daily is legendary, it really is impressive. How could removing that boulder off one’s back and simply enjoying and appreciating be hard in comparison? (link)
Hi Kuba,
Brilliant.
I can’t help by what you just said be reminded of the Cognitive Dissonance Theory – such behaviour is not only as old as each human being slightly or more severely afflicted by it – it is as old and atavistic as humanity itself. No wonder it’s so difficult to overcome and to even consider that enjoying oneself and appreciating being alive could improve one’s life.
Richard: Cognitive Dissonance Theory:
• [Richard (based on several web sources)]: The ‘cognitive dissonance theory’ suggests that when experiences or information contradicts existing knowledge, attitudes, beliefs or feelings, differing degrees of mental-emotional distress is the habitual result. The distressed personality is predisposed to alleviate this discord by reinterpreting (distorting) the offending information. Concurrent with this falsification, core beliefs tend to be vigorously defended by warping discernment and memory … such people are prone to misinterpret cues and ‘remember’ things to be as they wish they had happened instead of how they actually happened. They may be selective in what they recall, overestimating their apparent successes, while ignoring, downplaying, or explaining away their failures.
However it is more than merely a foolish head-in-the-sand psychological aberration, because the new, the fresh, the novel is oft-times met with determined resistance, disagreement, opposition and hostility. Indeed, the record of history shows many an occasion where someone who dared to question conventional beliefs was tortured, stoned, rent asunder, burnt at the stake, or otherwise horrifically put to death. (additional link in original).
It is difficult to comprehend the extent and depth of the brutal ignorance and downright stupidity required of the great mass of people who, unable to grasp innovative things that were to their own advantage, fought to retain the existing mind-set which was inimical to their welfare. It is the strangest of incongruities in regards to human pertinacity that peoples will invent reasons and struggle to maintain a state of affairs that is detrimental to their own advancement … even those conditions which enslave them.
The scientific method has evolved, in a large part, to reduce the impact of this human penchant for jumping to such self-justifying yet erroneous conclusions. (Richard, Abditorium, Cognitive Dissonance).
Cheers Vineeto