Hi Bub,
Here’s the first time you brought up the word “respect” in this thread [1]:
Here you indicted respect isn’t important to you and you are “more than happy” if I “completely disagree”.
This is the second instance:
Here again you indicate it is “a-ok” if one’s journey is not respected.
As it was “a-ok” not to, it was an opportune moment to point out how it’s not always sensible to respect (as in hold in high esteem) someone’s journey.
This is the 3rd post respect is mentioned, in response to that:
All this is to point out that you hadn’t actually set this boundary of “please respect my journey” before this 3rd post.
Apparently it was important to you all along, yet you either didn’t recognize it was or didn’t articulate it. This is why I frequently brought up the importance of sincerity and disentangling internal contradictions in our conversations so far.
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It appears that your main qualm is that some person or persons here are attempting to prevent you from going on the journey you want.
Yet this is not what is happening. You can of course go on whatever journey you want, and nobody here (at least not the person writing these words) is even attempting to stop you from doing so.
If you can point to somewhere I was disallowing you from going on whatever journey you want, it would be appreciated — but you won’t be able to as I haven’t done that.
Given this wish is being respected, the posting continues.
What I’ve actually done is as you wrote next:
That is, I’ve given advice based on your stated personal interest in AF and actualism, tailored to help you with said stated goals.
Only limiting it to the questions you ask, instead of also the things you write that are not in accordance with what is beneficial to applying the actualism method, would only be doing you a disservice.
The main issue is that you are conflating acceptance with approval, allowance with endorsement, letting-be with concordance, not-attempting-to-change-the-other with validation.
Pointing out that what you are doing is not in accordance with your stated goals is not attempting to stop you from doing anything, but rather informing you of the facts of the matter. What you do with that information is up to you of course.
If what you are asking is that nobody posts anything critical on your journal, and only agreements with what you are doing are to be written here – then that will be up to each individual whether they choose to respect it, but then I question the purpose of writing in a public forum specifically set up for actualism (and not spirituality). If that is so it would appear you are looking for an echo chamber of validation rather than pursuing the actualism method and AF.
I don’t think you’re actually looking for this… you wrote you found the posts helpful and your convo with Srinath helpful where he was stating things you weren’t doing/disagreed with (like about harmlessness). But that is just my evaluation.
I’ll leave it here as until these core matters are resolved there is not much purpose in conversing back and forth on any other matters.
Cheers,
Claudiu
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