I’ve been thinking about this one, I cannot see this experientially yet and I think this is why I am still on the look out for certain vibes, eg with my house-mate. I feel that in some way I need this mechanism in order to operate safely with others.
I do have experiences just like you’ve described, where no longer being pulled side to side by various vibes I am able to look at the situation in front of me from a clearer vantage point. I can see that maybe this person is upset or they are acting in this or that way and the fact that I am not caught up in their vibes is a blessing not a curse because I am able to operate sensibly and also quite surprisingly at times, kind of like what you described with the family situation recently.
It reminds me of what Richard writes that his responses are impeccable at all times and sometimes to his own surprise, there is a taste of that when I am able to operate sensibly.