On the subject of people who have had little trauma in life, I actually can’t easily think of anyone I know!
Which leads to the question ; if the majority have had a traumatic life, then there is definitely something in between where they (all the other me’s) are, and being naive enough to succeed with actualism.
The data now is piling up. The success rate of actualism is very low.
As a veteran of 3 world religions, and actualism, i can say with some authority that it does actualism no favours to use the same reasoning that the other 3 do to justify their lack of success ; that is, people aren’t trying hard enough.
People are trying as hard as they can.
We know why the religions don’t work. They were never ‘designed’ to bring individual peace and happiness.
However, why isn’t actualism working? It is designed for this purpose.
Richard said he had never talked with someone like me. (The mix of extreme pentacostal Christianity, and whatever else made me who i am). I am not surprised.
The best they (Richard and Vineeto) was to tell me off. Richard put on a stern face and seemed agitated, told me off for quite a while. Vineeto even made a statement that i was a “mummy’s boy”. In the end, they gave me an ultimatum ; decide to feel good, or they would not see me again.
I don’t blame them for trying. What else can be tried? 43 years of whatever ‘I’ am hadn’t budged. Though it was if course around 8 months after my brother died in my arms.
The point being, i am relatively unscathed compared to many. Or at least it seems to me. Or maybe it’s just that “birds of a feather” find each other, so i attract damaged people.
My sample group is biased by me.
Though, i doubt it. The stats on child abuse, rapes, bashings, and all the forms of mental abuse are clear.