So this weekend something has shaken up the whole martial arts world, if anyone is interested you can have a read here - Leandro Lo: Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu champion shot in São Paulo club - BBC News
The victim was a legendary BJJ world champion who was shot in the head twice and killed this weekend, it happened in a nightclub as he restrained a man who was bothering him and his group. He took the man down to control him and then let him up, the man took some steps back and then shot the victim twice, killing him.
Now I know that every situation is very complex and I don’t have all the details but this situation has had me wondering about something I have investigated in the past. Which is the macho/hero culture that is currently reinforced by martial arts circles and how it ultimately fails in delivering what it promises. This is one of those things where being an Actualist who is actively engaged in the martial arts world is quite fascinating.
What I have found in most people and in myself is more or less this string of events happening :
1 - I notice that I am not prepared to defend myself in a combat situation and this scares me, I desperately desire confidence so that I no longer have to be a victim to anyone. The funny thing is that speaking from where I am right now after intensely training MMA/BJJ for about 6 years is that my skillset as a fighter will never eradicate this fear, it actually reinforces it (the good old flip-side of the coin thing)
2 - I begin training martial arts and over time I notice that I get good, I am now able to pretty much toy with untrained people, this begins to fill me with a sense of power, like a lion walking among sheep.
3 - Unfortunately around the same time an identity is formed, an identity of some omnipotent person, a hero, the biggest dog around.
4 - Then I find myself in some situation, perhaps a stranger is bothering me… I have invested so heavily into living that fantasy of being the hero, not so different from those portrayed in action movies. Instead of reacting in a way that is intelligent, I either feel the need to live up to my macho identity (out of fear of being seen as a weakling afterall by those that I thought I was going to prove wrong!) or I believe that this is my moment to shine as the hero, that I will do the right thing and be loved and appreciated for my heroic acts (this is yet another way I seek to be acknowledged).
5 - The sad outcome of this is that I might end up engaging in a combat situation when it was not actually required and sadly I might end up living out something akin to what happen to the victim in the article.
I have spent so many hours looking at this, and I see how the martial arts world is deluded into seeing themselves as some beacons of nobility and humility. Yet their ‘peacefulness’ actually relies on dominance and their nobility is just egotism in disguise. As much as the martial arts guys believe that they are on some noble path, and if only the rest of the world was the same there would be peace, they are incorrect. Because in order for them to be peaceful they must be the ‘bigger dog’, they are actually unknowingly perpetuating conflict, that whole culture of violence.
Now that is not to say that learning the skills necessary for self defence may not be useful one day, but the way that culture is currently structured is not the way to go.
It is really interesting observing all this in myself. The other day I had some crazy/angry man who wrongly took me to be someone who almost hit him by car. He approached me with a very aggressive manner, I was well aware that this could turn very sour and yes I could fight him but this does not account for all the other things that could happen. Does he have a few friends around the corner? Will he come back to my work (where he saw me) and seek to get revenge one day? Will I accidentally hurt him too bad and end up prosecuted? Will he sneakily pull out a knife and stab me before I know what is going on? (I work in a dodgy area ) Those things are still there and this is why this fear that I try to eradicate by becoming all-powerful, will never go. In fact this whole thing might lead me to doing something stupid as opposed to acting in a way that is sensible.
Yet with the ‘martial artist lens’ I might simply see an attacker and decide it is necessary to fight him for a reason which usually can be traced back to some variation of pride.