I thought that this topic may help someone else, as this is one of those central to the social identity topics (if not THE social identity topic) which has been brought up before, but rarely with any clear discussion on what it means;
In short, SMV is a modern way of describing a facet of what the phrase “living in the world as it is, with people as they are” must, by de facto, refer to.
I won’t try and explain SMV, but if that isn’t familiar, then there are plenty of discussions on the web about it.
I will cut to the chase, and hopefully the applications to Naivete and enjoying life become apparent with this, by relating my insights into myself.
My looks SMV is around a 6. This makes me in the normal range. The normal range gets a pleasant smile from the potential mates, but will rarely turn a head.
(Edit; in my market place) To trade as a 6 in looks, one must sweeten the deal. This is even if one is dealing with an equivalent SMV. Sometimes, even if looks wise, one is better, the market will decide whether the deal needs sweeteners. Not me, not you; the market will decide.
If one is trading as an overall 4, (my status and financials are a 3), then sweeteners are required by the bucketful (in my market) .
To be happy, to naively enjoy, to otherwise have a partner and sexually experience the other, the transaction must be balanced. In the Marketplace.
(Note that by in the marketplace, i mean your marketplace, where you live, (or where i live) , not in some theoretical place, or wishful dreamland).
This can be a huge blow to the ego.
Take the blow, is my advice. Pay the market price.
Don’t be surprised if you are worth way less than you thought.