It’s remarkable.
I am taking it as a challenge myself, to extricate myself from what causes me to “love/want love”.
Love is pain, reaching out, to grasp that something that appears real. Without the pain, no love arises.
Sorta like what @Kiman is saying about harmlessness. Without the hurt, there is no hurt to be passed on.
Dealing with the pain, as in the “buck stops here” I think is the biggest challenge.
We will only hurt the one’s we “love”.