Quietening the screaming baby

[syd]

(While I take my time to reply to recent posts) I thought the below is a brilliant, succint and comprehensive and funner description of the whole thing that it is worth re-posting it to a top-level topic!

@Vineeto

[..] the whole method and process of actualism is about diminishing what is in the way of actuality becoming apparent, removing one ‘self-centric habit/ belief/ action of ‘me’ after another. In principle it is all so simple, the doing of it is another matter.

The reason why/ when putting this insight into practice is difficult is because each of us has/ had an in-built screaming baby, my ‘self’, made very real and convincing via feelings and passions as part of the animal inheritance, which obscures this very simply fact: when ‘I’ stop screaming (passionately feeling this or that and insisting that ‘I’ have to be somebody, somebody special) then there is peace and perfection.

Hence all the various actualism techniques to quiet down the screaming baby and slowly seduce it to stop flailing and thrashing about and start enjoying and appreciating being here, being alive and revel in the fact that everything is already perfect.

I think the two most potent techniques at any stage in the process are

1. being kind to yourself and
2. put everything on an ‘it-doesn’t-really-matter’ basis.

If you can sincerely and consistently apply both these techniques, the process of undoing your ‘self’ is increasingly enjoyable and immense cause for appreciation.

Besides, nothing really matters in the long run, because in the end ‘you’ will quit (either involuntary when your life-time is up, or voluntarily at any time ‘you’ are ready). You, Kuba, say above – “for ‘me’ it is a death which is as real as it gets”. It’s only a death as long as there is still resistance to see sense, complete 100% sense – then it’s a longed-for abdication, a willing disappearance into oblivion because (to quote Geoffrey) “no ‘weight’, no drama… just the only thing that made sense, the only sensible thing.” I know from ‘Vineeto’, first one needs to wrestle with, and/or soothe, and/or seduce, the screaming ‘me’ who doesn’t want to see sense.

It is already always perfect, perfection is already here. Stand still and ‘come’ here where you already are.

Give yourself permission to give up all responsibility and all struggle. As Richard says to ‘Vineeto’ in the Out-from-Control video: “I have no responsibility”.

[syd]

Some of my initial thoughts upon reading this:

(Obviously I may be overlooking other things; but I will figure that over time)

• “passionately feeling this or that and insisting that ‘I’ have to be somebody, somebody special” in particular comprehensively describes (better than ‘good’ and ‘bad’ feelings) about what is being minimized.
• "slowly seduce it to stop flailing and thrashing about and start enjoying and appreciating being here, being alive and revel in the fact that everything is already perfect.", likewise, describes well what it is being replaced with.
• I can also, now more than ever, relate to the “two most potent techniques”.
• "the process of undoing your ‘self’ is increasingly enjoyable and immense cause for appreciation." - I’m actually starting to see this as well. Very important!