Which reflects the program that blind nature hands us, irrespective of our capability to fulfill it.
It’s not that a monogamous relationship is “wrong”, it’s rather that it’s the best of a bad situation for the majority of people.
Being programmed by blind nature to seek out the very best to reproduce with, and being otherwise incapable via the genetic inheritance we are born with to fulfill that desire, we are left with an uneasy compromise.
Monogamy evolved to provide the socially best solution, without removing the blind instinct.
Nature is a master of pasting over fixes, without changing the previous condition.
@son_of_bob , you were talking about something this in the science discussion.
The raw primal drive to mate with “the best” hasn’t been deleted because it still works, some of the time. The subsequent adaptions, like religion and monogamy, also work, more of the time.
Ironically, the later adaptation specifically vilified the previous one, without deleting it.
The virtue of monogamy is in direct contradiction to the previous model.
Hence the cognitive dissonance. The emotional confusion.
There is nothing wrong with monogamy. One can easily make a case for it being the superior situation (stable social identity) There is nothing wrong with polygamy/ polygyny, one could also make a solid case for it (superior genetic health).
One can only wonder what an actually free world would look like. Would people choose to continue the human species?