Hi Leila,
Going by the quotes you selected it looks like you do see the point I was trying to make which is great. Essentially that with an affective awareness up and running ‘I’ can return to feeling good whenever there is any dip in felicity and innocuity without having to go through any kind of intellectual puzzle solving first. In fact that “puzzle solving” - from the position of being in the grip of emotion - is actually desperate spiralling in disguise.
So getting back to feeling good is nothing to do with investigation, and once feeling good again ‘I’ can actually have fun working out how ‘I’ tick.
I would also add (and this is because I have also been prone to the same kind of thing) that the next time the ‘attack’ comes and there is the begging of going into the worry and despair and the seeking of ‘security’ and the rest of it. That you will find yourself at a very important fork in the road, there is a choice to be made right there and then. That is exactly where the old habit is to be broken and the new habit to be formed. The action then is to decline to go in that direction in any form, because you know full well where it leads. From my experience this is where the ‘good’ feelings will seduce also… “Let me just take a few steps down this path and make sure it is all ‘safe’” etc. And yet you know that underneath this ‘security’ is always more ‘danger’. So instead you refuse to walk down that path at all.
A nice funny example of this is that thing of “let me just check one more time that I locked the door when I left the house”, I have watched my brother and my boss take turns doing this multiple times when locking up the office
And with each bout of ‘safety’ came another bout of ‘danger’.
Or this haha