Something interesting came up today with regards to authority. There are still 2 primary areas where authority plays a part in my life. Actually they are really 2 aspects of 1 area - work.
There is the authority between me and my boss and there is the authority between me and the customers who I deal with.
I was wondering why is it that my boss/customers are able to elicit an emotional response in me, why is it that they can ‘pull my strings’ or ‘dig their hooks into me’ or ‘chip away at me’. I knew that it is something I must be playing part in, because this is always the case when there is a power structure between people, both individuals are doing something to enter that arena. So I was thinking what is it that they ‘have on me’? What gives authority its power? I knew it was something within me, something that ‘I’ am participating in.
What I saw clearly today is that it is fear, the power of authority relies on fear. My boss has authority over me because of the fears which I hold about ‘what he could do’, and the same with the customer, the customer has authority because of my fears of ‘what they could do’. Specifically this revolves around some fearful fantasy of loosing my job, ending up on the streets etc. Or in general it is that feeling of ‘I will be in trouble/something bad will happen’.
What I realised is that if those fears did not exist in me, those individuals would be unable to enter any sort of power relationship with me. It would cut the whole thing at the root, then I am free to act intelligently as opposed to emotionally (by either cowering to or fighting against the authority).
Of course I do not wish to loose my job or be on the streets but the key is to distinguish between emotion, belief, fantasy and an intelligent appraisal of facts.