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[Kub933]

Hi John,

I am not sure how well I can describe the difference between the ‘do-er’ and ‘be-er’ but Hunterad’s post from yesterday does quite a good job of describing the MO of the ‘do-er’ :

@hunterad

This started the other day when out on a nice long walk alone over some sunny hills. I was starting to think about actualism and about how I really wanted to make progress. I was suddenly stopped in my tracks by the memory of how many similar moments I’ve had over the years, and with that there was a question of ‘how is this any different now, am I just walking over the same ground literally and figuratively, again?’

It reminded me of how people can spend their entire lives in conflict with themselves over losing weight. They can have an internal narrative about the plans to lose weight and different strategies and methods that basically goes on and on forever. Perhaps the narrative itself is a sort of ‘sustenance’ for me that I take pleasure in, and it certainly works the same for actualism. Actually doing it is quite simple - sustaining the narrative that I’m doing it or want to do it is a circus of complexity and diversion. Actually doing it goes somewhere new - sustaining the narrative is walking in a circle composed of highs and lows. And of course - as a note to myself, having this realization is not going somewhere new in and of itself, it will just be another high unless I actually walk the walk.

So the ‘do-er’ is the little agent ‘inside’ with ‘his’ various sophisticated plans and schemes, the one apparently in charge of life, the one carrying the burden of “keeping it all together” etc. What the ‘do-er’ eventually realises is that like Hunterad described - ‘he’ is just spinning around in circles and it is all for nought.

Then with sufficient abandon the ‘do-er’ can take a risk and instead of remaining in control ‘he’ can step back and allow life to happen of it’s own accord and thus make way for the naive ‘be-er’ to Iive without the effort and without the control. This is as far as I have got experientially