Kuba: So I woke up pretty excited about this new thing to explore – actual intimacy. It clicked yesterday that essentially I conflated an emotional intimacy with actual intimacy and then wrongly thought that to get close to the other meant to wade into the waters of emotional intimacy. So whatever resistance I had towards getting close to the other, it was based in a misunderstanding.
I have re-memorated the flavour of actual intimacy, a direct experiencing of the other. In short there is nothing that could go wrong there!
And it is a delicious thing, to experience the actuality of the other, that they are here now as a flesh and blood body.
Now I am genuinely excited at this possibility, to experience the other directly.
There is this rather cliche sign that hangs upon entrances to various martial arts academies – “Leave your ego at the door”, the door to actual intimacy has a similar sign but it reads – “Leave ‘your’ self at the door”. (link)
Hi Kuba,
This is splendid. It is indeed a delicious enterprise to experientially explore with eventually having nothing to hide – where you can allow the universe to live you more and more and let the felicitous and innocuous feelings (kindness, gentleness, consideration, friendliness, appreciation and wonder, to name but a few) flourish. Remember, you cannot avoid feelings as long as you are a feeling being – you can only channel all occurring feelings into felicitous and innocuous feelings.
Here is what Richard means by ‘naked’ –
[Richard]: By the word naked I do not necessarily mean ‘no clothes’ but, rather, much more than being merely nude; I mean having nothing to hide and everything openly on display for all to see (by those capable of having both eyes open that is) before embarking on an idyllic voyage through paradise … (Announcement1, Tooltip after “naked crew”)
Cheers Vineeto