So last week I managed to resolve the question ‘I’ had around allowing excellence, yesterday something clicked with regards to expecting excellence from others. This was also a long standing habit of mine and the main reason I would get sour these days.
It happened at work as I was working through a mess that could have been easily avoided with some basic planning and consideration, when I raised this with the superiors it was clear that they were not interested.
Initially ‘I’ went into the tried and failed paths of resentment and wishing things were different, it was very quickly seen that this is a dead end for sure… So then ‘I’ was at a crossroads because it is clear that demanding others to change does not work but neither does it work to accept others as they are.
It clicked then that what I have been missing all along is this basic fact, which is that (whether one sees it or not) one is free to live their live as sensibly or foolishly as one wants. The universe does not force one to be happy and harmless and to live sensibly, if one wishes to bang their head against a wall repeatedly then so be it. What I can see is that I was still carrying some kind of obligation which I was projecting onto others, that they must live sensibly, probably because their foolish actions have an effect on me. But in demanding others to be different I am forgetting the fact that they are fellow human beings.
And it is all rather simple when this is seen, because each individual is left standing on their own two feet, living their life. Then I am not obligated but neither am I expecting things from others. Of course excellence can still flow but without expectation and obligation there is no attempt to change the other, which always fails anyways.
I am reminded of Richard’s journal where he explored the “social contract” which everyone is apparently signing by being born into a society. Where I am proceeding now there is no contract either way. How fascinating that it is possible to live in peace and harmony where there is no contract, no blueprint, no obligation or responsibility. It seems this is only possible in a virtual freedom or actual freedom so for now the law, courts, police, army etc are still required. But I do not have to wait for society to change before I unilaterally exit this ‘contract’ or rather realise that the ‘contract’ was never actual.