Andrew: Thanks Vineeto.
I was very hesitant to reply after the deleted post. As in, I really questioned why I was going to object to something without having anything alternative, as in an “answer “ to offer, and then divulge the rest of the thoughts, again, with nothing to offer as far as a useful answer.
Between Kuba’s replies and yours, I see there has always been an extremism about how I approach actualism, which is the same as anything I do. I either can master it, or I give up and hang around it, talking about it.
There is a huge amount of various efforts that can indeed be made between those extremes.
Hi Andrew,
Indeed. And not just “various efforts” also fun experiments and valuable insights which can be actualised.
Andrew: I particularly like how you say this;
Vineeto: then you can choose that you might want to be a different (enjoyable and harmless) feeling.
Andrew: For a fair while I had some subtle success with this “convoluted” way of dealing with choice.
Well, well, it’s only “convoluted” when you call it so, else it’s naïvely experimenting with choices you have never made because your “extremism” didn’t allow for them so far.
Andrew: Echoing Geoffrey and others, “choosing to allow”, and “allowing myself to choose “ and other variations of multi-level linguistic permission giving, and granting, and otherwise humorously talking myself into a light-hearted mood.
Thanks for the conversation. It has created “space” in my mind between the extremes. Perhaps I would indeed prefer to allow myself the permission to choose feeling good, and in light of the repeated fact that external circumstances often are not to my preference, to continue feeling good, enjoying and appreciating that very feeling, anyway.
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You are welcome. Now it’s up to you to keep this “space” “between the extremes” open and play with the new options.
Cheers Vineeto