This is very true in my experience. For me personally, getting back to feeling at least neutral happens by stop trying to force feeling good. This may just be my own tendency, but I redouble my efforts and try extra hard to push bad feelings away, often by “investigation” (this kind of investigation is just an attempt at suppression). Real, organic investigation happens when there’s no pressure and one is curious.
I’ve put things on a “does not matter” basis recently. This has been quite difficult for me to do, and I have realized I am quite a domineering personality, wanting to always have my preferences met. Going along with others’ preferences recently has triggered this fear in me of being taken advantage of or being a doormat for other people’s whims. But yesterday when I tried this, honestly everything turned out fine and I had a great time. I felt light and happy and harmless. It seems my pushing of my preferences is driven by this fear. Most of the things that happen do not really mater…
And for the things that do, I take a stand only if what’s happening is falling outside the realm of being sensible. This kind of action comes from a very different and more grounded place.