Ian: Im mishandling actualism. I recognise today that a part of me wants to be successful with actualism as a way to be lovable vs as a way to be free… applying actualism to be perfect and thereby avoid shame… to be worthy/ loved/accepted because I can’t be accused of self centred arrogance, and/or can’t be affected by shame. Good to recognise.
Hi Ian,
Excellent to recognize it – now you can be on the look-out should it turn up again.
Does your action of publicizing this significant discovery on the forum indicate a conscious choice to pursue actualism as your priority?
If so, you might find Richard’s “quaint little wonder-tale” to Rick about self-esteem helpful and informative – (From Basic Actual Freedom to Full Actual Freedom Part 2 Rick). (bottom of the page if bookmark does not work)
Looking at the grip the demand for self-esteem has on your life (like on most people’s lives) will do a lot to make you more autonomous and thus free to pursue your primary aim in life.
Cheers Vineeto