Haha! To give some context my friend was a genius. Taught himself to program, play instruments as a kid, so many things. Me and him were the top of our classes for everything but rather than a competitive approach we had an incredible collaborative friendship. My whole career exists because of what he taught me, I wouldn’t have achieved anywhere near what I have in my life without knowing him. I don’t think I would have ever encountered AF if not for him either. As having no interest in spirituality and not really being unhappy in anyway at that time, I was happy with my love of creativity and learning and the vibes and highs from this, I don’t think I would have ever have discovered this alternative without him.
Funnily enough, he did study philosophy at university but he could have done anything he wanted to. I always found it a waste that he chose philosophy lol!
When we were 13/14 in high school (this being around 98/99) he was thinking about concepts of the self, the nature of reality. He began realising the illusory nature of the self at this point. Merely from his own lines of questioning.
So many things that he taught or introduced me to. His death has definitely been a difficult emotional upheaval. It was my first experience of a genuine deep regret, as we had drifted out of contact those lost 4 or 5 years before he passed away, something that seemed impossible at one point. I can’t believe we drifted like this. However, our mutual depressions and different pathways clashed. He ultimately gave up on AF and favoured anti-natalism and compassion and I wanted to continue on the AF path, I had more success on it than him and I was more confident it could deliver the goods. I think he had a problem with the experiential, he seemed always in the realm of the theoretical.
So many things would trigger memories of him, places we would hang, movies we watched, comedies, comedians he introduced me to (like Bill Hicks, Dave Chapelle), music we loved, books we shared. He introduced me to the internet in 1997, I had started to hear about it like films The Net with Julia Roberts and noticing the football (soccer) tournament Euro 96 had a website (wondering what the hell it was lol) he had been online since 1992 and had witnessed the whole evolution of the net from predominantly text based sites to the insane variety that now exists. He introduced me to Google, as well as YouTube, etc. He was that guy who was always ahead of the curve, knew what was going to be big before it became big.
When your lose older relatives and close family friends it is a difficult bond to break. When your parents die it is even harder, the bond being so close, I imagine losing a sibling in some instances must be just as tough. When you lose a buddy though, it feels even more real, the possibility of death for yourself is realised as a truly genuine outcome. It is not esoteric anymore, there may not be some expectation or warning that death will happen…it is a viable possibility at any given time.
Again, the universe throws up opportunities to learn more about how we tick.