Au contraire, it is not that something is wrong with you, nor is something wrong with them, either. Rather, something is wrong with love itself.
This is easy to see. Just witness any couple that is in a “healthy love” state for long enough, and you will inevitably see squabbles and bickering rising to the surface. Their emotions may range from peeved to upset to (on rarer occasions) furious when it happens. Eventually they forget about it or “kiss and make up”, and around it goes again.
When they write about the benefits of “healthy love”, they are talking about the times in-between the squabbles. These times can indeed feel ecstatically amazing, invigorating, full of flowing beautiful energy. They are simply not writing about the bad times in-between, or they will mention something like that love prevails through it or whatnot. But they never have a solution where it is fun and enjoyable all the time rather than only some of the time.
The most appealing way I would put it, which of course is also a factually correct way, is this. There is a vision or ideal of what a relationship is ideally like. Love promises to be that ideal, but actually never reaches it. On the other hand, an association with enjoyment and appreciation coursing through it, exemplified by naive intimacy derived from sincerity and guided by pure intent, actually does attain to that which love only promises to be. It is the actual answer you are looking for. The key is that love is not the way to get there.
As such by abandoning love, you are not abandoning that ideal, but rather clearing the way to get far closer to it than you would with love. My experience was different from Vineeto & Peter’s:
My experience was different as it was one-sided rather than two-sided (my partner is not an actualist per se). The way it practically worked is that love was gradually replaced by increasing naive intimacy, enjoyment and delight, rather than a “dramatic change”. I did have many conversations with my partner over time though and she had since near the beginning wanted a way of living her life that was marked more by consistent good moods rather than up-and-down swings. I also note that whenever I am experiencing particularly delectable intimacy, she immediately notices and remarks on it with something along the lines of that I’m giving her a sweet look. It is truly delightful!
Cheers & all the best,
Claudiu