Being less 'self'-centric and more considerate

[Andrew]

@syd

Regarding your point about ‘choice,’ something seems to have changed in your view since about 3 weeks ago:

@Andrew

Being a typical blind nature ‘male’’ is hard. Really is such a massive drag. You can see how it has only a single goal; sex. It, blind nature, doesn’t care at all about her. It doesn’t care about you either. Which is to say, ‘we’ don’t care about each other naturally.

If we don’t care naturally, isn’t ‘choosing’ to care just another moralistic strategy to avoid the raw fact of my self-centeredness? I’m not interested in moralistic forcing. I’d rather be sincere about who I actually am than force a version of caring that serves as a spanner in the works.

Hi mate,
Indeed my belief did change, after we had our video chat. We were talking about this topic, and the conversation went to “instinctual passions”. To summarise, I saw that I believed that they (instinctual passions ) were the “final boss” and can’t be changed. In other words, I believed that human nature can’t change.

So, yes, my attitude did change in the last 3 weeks.

Change happens when we choose too. Justification (as I was doing) changes nothing at all, and was an example (among the many) of me adapting “actualist sounding “ ideas into self perpetuating “reasons” why I continue to choose not to feel good, (bro)!

Andrew

Writing this down, as I almost forgot! I can change “Instinctual Passions” because I am Instinctual Passions. In as much as any radical change is changing me, I am changing entirely. I say this as I realised that I hold the instinctual passions in some belief system of being the “final boss” , and as such are in effect saying “I can’t change human nature”. While I am sure it’s not technically true that I am for example eliminating fear (which would be a stripped down self), I can radically re…