I find this really interesting, isn’t that basically the whole thrust of the real world? I could rephrase this and say that my entire psyche was centred around that desire for recognition, and through others I could enjoy life.
So pure, direct enjoyment is somehow outlawed and one is only allowed to enjoy through some pre-cooked and pre-approved medium, eg :
AFT - The method is enjoying and appreciating this moment of being alive.
Actualist aspirant - Ok but what exactly am I meant to enjoy about this moment of being alive?
It’s like how a kid will have the time of their life doing absolutely anything at all. Then all of a sudden when I am an adult everything has to be ‘a thing’, a creation recognised and approved by the group.
But then everything of this kind is always a step removed, always something extra.
It does seem so silly doesn’t it that in the wanting to enjoy life, one has to go through ones partner (or society or whatever) to be allowed to do so.
So the idea is, cut out the middleman!
Ooh just like this in fact :
R: Then you are free – free of the whole Human Condition.
What can you remember of perfection? What was your very best experience? What comes closest to what I am talking about?
Q: I don’t know … I can’t remember them. I don’t have much memory of my childhood at all.
R: Once when you said to me, looking at a particularly bushy garden: ‘The word ‘bush’ gets in the way of seeing it’.