I have been having a lot of success with the pointers mentioned in the above thread, they can be summarised by the below :
By feeling into all the beliefs, fantasies and emotions around it, you will free up energy to focus on it more factually.
What I noticed for me is that often there is a pull to escape into various Actual freedom fantasies whilst trapped within a feeling pattern. I try to act as if I am already actually free in order to escape the burden of my emotional structures. This whole thing is as Srinath mentions a form of emotional avoidance and it is a dead end, I have spent so many hours doing just that though! What also happens is that by attempting to escape away from these emotional structures I am reinforcing their reality. By feeling, investigating and resolving these structures they disappear out of my life. Then I am genuinely free of that particular issue, I no longer need to pretend.
Since yesterday the advice has kept me grounded in the simple stuff, catching my feeling good being usurped then bringing attention to those underlying emotional structures with the intent of investigating and resolving them, and it has been working out exactly in this way.
It takes a certain amount of obsessiveness and reminding myself to get off my backside over and over. Sometimes I want to just ignore this little niggle and pretend that all is still well (that I am still surfing this perpetual crest of feeling good), I don’t want to admit that my felicity has been usurped (to whatever degree). What I notice though is that in most cases it takes just a little bit of attentiveness to the issue at hand and it melts away, and then I am actually feeling good again as opposed to having to escape into fantasy. For me personally it seems that physically writing notes does the trick, so I will often go into my phone and jot down what is going on. This act of applying awareness-cum-attentiveness more often than not has the effect of dissolving the issue. All very simple stuff but hey it works 