Kuba: Hi Vineeto,
Thank you for your reply, I will consider your latest response as well as the previous one. As a side note I wanted to say how much I appreciate the way in which you have been speaking with me over the past year. Of course this process of working out how to arrive at my destiny, it involves stumbling into various dead ends, diversions and even me being outright cunning. But all these times, through hundreds of messages I have experienced nothing but goodwill and more from you. I can’t tell you just how deeply I appreciate this, and it is something I will remember for the rest of my life, just what is possible in terms of relating to one’s fellow human being.
Hi Kuba,
I do appreciate your feedback, primarily for your sake as you seem to be benefitting mightily from appreciating my comment – but also because your perspicacity makes the interaction particularly delightful when facilitating another becoming free from suffering forever.
By the way, when I mentioned “cunning” in my message yesterday (“‘you’ are very real, passionately (and cunningly) so”), I said that not as a criticism (because all identities are by instinctual necessity cunning from time to time) but as a warning to what to look out for once you recognize the pattern.
You may have already noticed how appreciation is its own reward facilitating and enhancing the enjoyment of what or who you appreciate. After all, to appreciate means 1) recognize the full worth of and 2) understand (a situation) fully; grasp the full implications of. (Oxford Dictionary). It also means adding value to what / who you appreciate.
Kuba: I can see that this challenge of being intimate is what I have been avoiding, there is a joke I saw online that goes something like “men would rather go to war than therapy” of course neither war nor therapy is needed for the third alternative but this gets the gist of my resistance. It’s like I found it easier to turn actualism into some battle against dragons and demons as long as I could avoid this challenge of being intimate. (link)
Ha, now that you have understood this (instinctual) pattern you never need to fall into this trap again.
Cheers Vineeto