Maybe the biggest fear is not that others would see that you are an emotional entity, but actually that you would have to acknowledge to yourself and finally accept that you are an emotional entity just like everyone else?
I say it cause it was a rather revolutionary / ground-breaking realisation for me relatively recently, I finally thoroughly saw and accepted that “I am my feelings and my feelings are me”.
What it means in practice is that any feeling I feel, regardless whether I might think I want to feel it or not or I might feel it’s genuine or not genuine or that I may think it represents me or not or if I might think I don’t ‘really’ feel that way — none of that matters. I am that feeling that was felt. So even a tiny annoyance or irritation or even larger stuff, even if I don’t express it or alter my behavior as a result, still the fact that I felt it means that I am like that, I am a person that reacts and feels that way about whatever that trigger was, whether I want to be or not.
The only thing I can try to do is to pretend I’m not, but pretending doesn’t change the fact!
A ‘fatalistic’ way to put it would be there’s no ‘way out’, there’s no way to avoid the fact that I am a feeling-being and I am my feelings, any feeling I feel is me.
It clicked that the only reason I was able to try to put myself into actuality (as Geoffrey helped me discover), the only reason anyone would be able to try to do this, is by not seeing that I am my feelings & my feelings are me. Because by doing that I fancy that I am some entity separate from my feelings, and then it makes ‘sense’ how this entity could possibly continue to exist even though all ‘the feelings’ are gone. But when I see I am not something different than my feelings – then it’s impossible to even contemplate such a thing. As I am my feelings, if there are no feelings then there can be no me either.
However it is not a ‘fatalistic’ thing at all but really a freeing one. I no longer have to burden myself with trying to pretend that I’m not my feelings or that certain feelings don’t ‘really’ count 
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I can see that it is difficult to accept at first because it means I really am a variety of things and feelings and relations etc., that I may not want to be (hence the trying to deny it). It requires admitting I am not who I thought I was. Yet once I was able to do it, it actually provides a solid and clear foundation for proceeding forward. Once I see that I am my feelings (all of them), then it rapidly becomes clear that there’s also no reason to ever ‘protest’ or try to ‘fight against’ any feeling! It is just so silly, that is me fighting myself, and to what end? I am still that feeling anyway! The feeling-of-it has already happened, and cannot be retroactively changed. But what can be changed is what I do now. The ‘feelings’ are not ‘out of my control’, it’s not like they are things that just happen. I don’t have to (and it’s not possible to) try to indirectly manipulate these strange ephemeral ‘things’ out there called ‘feelings’ – I am those feelings. It’s me! So there’s no barrier to changing ‘me’, it’s just me. Just accepting who I am and then determining how I want to proceed.
I am sure you’ve already seen all the writing about this, and thought about it, and even probably said the same or similar things to other people, as I had too in the past, but I am really stressing the point to attempt to convey how much of a fundamental thing it was for me even after all the time, and to hopefully have it be helpful to you and anyone else reading it as well. And it also serves as my own journal entry 
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I wonder @Vineeto if this “I am my feelings and my feelings are me” would warrant its own topic page, and a collection of related correspondences? It is critical and features throughout the AFT site but I haven’t seen a single central place or page that has all this.