I think you’re still circling a bit around the main point which is that enjoying and appreciating is essentially the same, or of the same quality, as having fun, in the way that kids have fun. It’s not a special method or technique or tool or something obtuse or abstract or complicated or complex or hard to understand. If every kid in the world can do it … … it can’t be that hard! 
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The downside of calling it the actualism method is that it gives this idea that it’s some rigid framework to follow. On the other hand the downside of saying “just have fun” is that then people don’t know what to do. So we go with calling it a ‘method’ for now… … .
But really the ‘method’ is just: have fun! as much as possible!
With that in mind…
Well what do you do when you’re having fun? You might find that you aren’t even thinking about ‘where’ your attention is… you are just enjoying the experience of having fun. That’s more the idea.
So when you’re just having fun… … are you aware that you’re having fun? Generally yes… it’s fun to have fun, and while having fun you realize you’re having fun… because you’re having fun! This is what the “awareness” of the actualism “method” refers to – the experience of having fun, in and of itself. Having fun is the awareness of having fun!
Hmm so regarding “sensuous”… think of it this way. Have you ever been on a vacation, and went out to eat at a restaurant, and it just tasted so good, so delicious? Like maybe the best meal you had in your life? People frequently have this experience – that eating a meal while on vacation, the meal is incredibly enjoyable. Yet the people that go regularly to the restaurant, who live there, don’t have the same experience of it… anything you do that you do repeatedly, the enjoyment of it tends to dull as the novelty wears off.
What I think is happening is that when you’re on vacation, you’re already in a good mood… you’re having fun, in good company, no worries. From this point of already having a great time, then the food tastes delicious! It isn’t that the food is good – although it surely is – it’s that having fun allows you to enjoy the experience of eating the food much more. This is a sensuous experience… this is what sensuousness refers to.
And it should be clear how, if you’re going about your normal life, are in a bad or foul mood, and you go to a restaurant, that food won’t taste as good… and you can “try” to “enjoy” the food, and “experience” it, in a more “sensuous” way… but that just won’t be the same experience as eating the vacation meal. You can’t force yourself to have fun … to enjoy or appreciate.
I wouldn’t worry about this so much at this point. The actual world is completely invisible to you. You can’t ‘contact’ it… the only way is to have a PCE. And that will happen at some point! Until then… enjoy being alive 
Do what you would do when you’re having fun or eating that vacation meal . And it’s more about recognizing the enjoyment of the mood in and of itself, rather than the particular things that you are doing while enjoying. The vacation meal is exceptionally tasty… but not (just) because of the food (the conditional thing)… rather because you are enjoying being alive already (which is what can be relatively unconditional).
I hope this helps!
) is I did anything and everything I could, and I continued chipping away with patience and perseverance until significant change happened.
Alright, look it’s fine really as a temporary thing, but you’ll soon find that it creates its own problems.
