The issue of control (or no control) was a problem I tackled a few years ago. What I remember is that there is really no such thing as control. ‘I’ or ‘me’ appear as controller, but they constantly fail. What really controls ‘me’ are the circumstances that trigger the pre-programmed instinctual passions which is again ‘me’ in motion.
If ‘I’ had control then ‘I’ could change emotions in an instant at my own will. But ‘I’ can’t do that, hence control is a mute point. That’s not the point as far as I’m concerned. You engage the problem of control indirectly from a different position.
With actualism and Richard’s discoveries one has a peculiar choice to make. To end this whole mess, to end ‘me’. The controller who can’t control. Everything starts with a pivotal decision. An firm and pure intent to experiance peace on earth in this lifetime as a human beeing. This decision, this intend is all that matters. The crazy thing is that this intend doesn’t really care if there is a controller or not. It bypasses the whole situation by reminding one constantly on what has to be done >> To remove everything that is blocking one from reaching that goal. This is something I can do. It’s a decision which is renewed constantly. It’s different from controlling a situation.
So the point is to remove the triggers (blocks) which keep you spinning so that control becomes unnecessary. The intend is that which guides. So again, the approach is an indirect approach. You realize you are feeling bad and you suss out the triggers which can be superficial triggers (easy to spot,fast) or deeper triggers (harder to spot, takes time). The more triggers you defuse, the better you can feel on a constant basis, hence less and less control.
What blocked me in my initial years was a lack of curiosity which was felt as a lack of energy. Not the normal curiosity (interest) which is merely looking at the fishes swimming in the water. I dealt superficially with my issues, because I wanted to go back to feeling good as fast as possible. But then for whatever reason (maybe frustration) a different kind of passion arose. It was a different kind of curiosity. The sincere curiosity which wanted to really know! To get to the bottom of things. That kind of curiosity that jumped into the water and got into direct contact with the bigger fish (the deeper feelings).
And sometimes on some rare occasions, when the self is susceptible and open, you can even go deeper and meet freaking wales. It can get rocky at times.
Beforehand I somewhat avoided the bigger issues that arose. I looked at them but something always “diverted” my attention which was nothing else than ‘me’ protecting myself. The energy to inquire properly arose by this new found curiosity. I took my time, sat down and asked questions. I tackled the issue from different angles. I wouldn’t let the fish go. I can be very stubborn and deliberate. What I learned was that asking the “right” questions was paramount for me. Every issue is a little riddle I have to eventually solve.
What is Eaatmoba? 
You cannot be in good mood in whatever you do, when you are not in good mood.
The first thing you do is to notice that you are in good mood, when you actually are. >> That’s your starting point.
Be aware of it: “Hey, I’m in good mood, feel carefree, I have fun with this etc. Cool.”
Hold it, be aware of it. When that mood begins to alternate and shift then you also begin to notice. Your current time awarens evolves over time. The mood changes may slip under your radar at first. But at one point you do indeed notice:" Hm, I’m feeling bad."
Then the inquiry starts: Why? How? When? What happend? Scan your memory for the moment or event that changed your mood. Stick with it. It’s like a riddle you have to solve. Ask questions, try to find the reason for that change. Only you know the reasons, nobody else can do it for you. If you can’t remember it it’s okay. Don’t be harsh with yourself. Go on living your life. The next event will surely pop up. If you can pin point the reason then explore it. Is it reason enough to spoil your happiness? Why is it so important to feel that feeling instead of feeling better? What is so special about it? Can it solve my issues? Is it helpful? Why am I holding onto that feeling? How is this feeling related to the basic instinctual passions richard talks of? >> Learn about yourself.
It is indeed too much of a hassle. How about putting all of your attention and energy into beeing as sincere as possible in regards to your inner workings at this exact moment? What is it that blocks you from experiancing happiness and harmlessnes? Find out, like really!
Without feeling the feeling by getting in touch with it intimately you have no clue what they (you) actually are. Then it’s rather a conceptual understanding which is too far removed from an intimate understanding. It’s not enough to notice some unpleasant movement down there in the guts or the solar plexus. Don’t just paste a preconceived answer/image over it.
That is you in motion! Are you not vitally interested and curious? Stay with an unpleasant feeling. Study it. Try to understand what it demands. Take your time. What does it want to achieve and why? The feelings communicate, they want something. Find out what and contrast it with a life at peace and harmony with the world as it is and people as they are. The more you get a picture of yourself the more facets are revealed. Then you notice that you are indeed corrupt to the core, but that you have also qualities that you can use/be to make change happen.
Inquiry and getting in touch with your feelings is an art you have to develop. It takes time. You’ll get the hang of it.
The initial years are the most difficult as far as I remember. Everything is such mess and confusing. But the more triggers you defuse the more happy and easy it gets.
It depends. If you are happy and harmless you tend to forget yourself anyways. When the fluctuation begins, then attention automatically activates.
The attention on this moment in time (the only moment in time) is to not let you forget that you are lost in feelings while there is an alternative available. It’s not a mantra, but a reminder. With time it becomes second nature anyway. It then runs automatically.