May I suggest that maybe it’s that you don’t want to let go of that belief yet? Therefore you find a way to avoid doing what you know will work to dismantle it… i.e. the “want something to happen right now” is just an excuse, a diversion, from the deeper not-really-wanting-anything-to-happen-right-now .
Just a thought/observation/possibility! I find with feelings and beliefs that they can be so murky and tricky to untangle that it can sometimes be impossible for me to intuit my own motivations for doing things. But if I step back and treat myself as a 3rd-party I am observing and look only at ‘their’ behavior, it becomes clear what outcome the behavior has – and then it’s difficult to argue against that being what the deeper “intent” is so to speak .
(Or to put it differently – it no longer matters what the ‘intent’ behind the pattern is. It’s clear the outcome of the behavior. Then the question is if I want a different outcome… then it’s a conscious choice what to do now.)