You’re conflating enjoying and appreciating things versus enjoying and appreciating being alive.
It’s a common misconception. The actualism method isn’t to like, enjoy, and appreciate every single thing that happens to you and to other people, even abhorrent things such as the raping of villages, or more mundanely, the doing of taxes (although I actually do enjoy various aspects of doing them haha, but that’s another story).
It’s to enjoy this moment of being alive, which moment is the unconditional/the absolute/the ultimate, regardless of the particulars going on at this moment, which particulars are the conditional/the relative/the immediate.
It’s just not possible, and also not sensible, to enjoy bad things happening. Why enjoy things that are bad? This amounts to ‘positive thinking’ and is essentially an insult to intelligence.
But, what you can do, is to choose not to let any particular bad thing take away from your enjoyment and appreciation of being alive. This, then, is what the actualism method is. So you can find yourself in an objectively bad situation, with genuinely bad things happening, which are terrible, yet find yourself still generally in a good mood despite all that.
After all, what benefit would it be to be upset or stressed or anxious instead of said good mood? It won’t change the facts, will it? And what better way to react then from that clear-headedness that comes with felicity? Etc etc.
Cheers,
Claudiu